That I want to have a child really bad. Im 18. Its been like this since I was 16! Its not that I crave that love or anything, I just feel so ready! What do you think it is? I would even adopt!
2006-08-15 10:23:01 · 12 answers · asked by babiigurl4utwo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
first off u need to make sure u r ready to settle down cuz just as soon as u have a baby everything changes. i was 15 when i had my son and it is very hard. there is a chance that u will lose all ur friends after the baby because they will be able to go out and party and have a good time but u wont be able to because u have to stay home and take care of ur child. u also have to be able to provide for that baby but if u have a job u have to find a babysitter and if its not someone u know and trust then u have to worry about abuse. its really hard and if i were u i think id wait until i was ABSOLUTLY SURE i was ready to settle down befor having a baby. yes it is wonderful to have a child to hold and love that will love u unconditionally but u have to be ready for that responsibility. id wait until ur in ur middle 20s or when all ur partying is done. if u need to talk just contact me by clicking on my name.
2006-08-15 10:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by emilybailey1980 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl you don't know what you are getting yourself into. It seems like you want one right now but things may change after you have a baby. Even though you are 18 I am sure you are emotionally ready but it takes more than that. Babies are very expensive. A baby will need you 24 hours a day. You will not be able to go out with your friends, or party or spend money on yourself because your child will need all of your attention. Most women say they are never really ready for a child. Why not wait until you go to college and get a career so you can have the stability to give your child everything? You will definitely want your baby to have a father. Make sure you have the right guy for this responsibility. I don't know you and only you know if you really are ready. It's your choice. Just make sure you are prepared in every way. I am 23 years old and I want to have a baby but I won't because I want to be more financially stable so I can give my child everything and not have any worries. Good luck.
2006-08-15 17:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Princess 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You feel ready, so that means you are financially well off, have your own home, your own car, you are married to whoever the father will be, you are willing to give up hanging out with friends and go out to the clubs and living life first, you are not planning on going to college to have a better future. These are a factors you must look at. You need medical insurance for you and the baby.
No adoption agency is going to let an 18 year old adopt a child because you have nothing to offer...financially wise.
Stop rushing things.
2006-08-15 17:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can have a baby later. When you make that decision it's supposed to be in the best interest of the baby. When you have a man who is willing to be a good father, and you are financially secure then have one. At 18 you aren't even emotionally ready, even if you think you are. It's really difficult being a parent and it's nothing to rush.
2006-08-15 17:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to put your mind into something else, like college, sports, music, something else. There is nothing wrong with you wanting a baby, it is not bad at all, however you should be married first, have a job and be in general a good provider for your child, babies are expensive and require lots of your time and remember the older you are, the less mistakes you will make as a parent.
2006-08-15 17:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lilly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I'm glad for you that you didn't act on your desire when you were 16. It's fine that you want a child really badly and you're an adult now so it's your decision as to when you're ready. If you're prepared financially and emotionally, then go for it. But I think you have to be older to adopt, at least in most states.
2006-08-15 19:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not bad. But if I were u wait till your married and if you don't wanna do that then wait till ur at least 23 so u can have all the fun you can get. Having a child is a BIG responsibility as you probably heard already. I'm just saying have fun while you still can.
2006-08-17 10:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by ThAoNeNoNlY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some want to be mothers earlier than some I guess. It is only natural, that you as a woman, want to be a mother. Just make sure you're ready and that the baby (or child) would have what they need to grow up.
2006-08-16 02:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to wait until your in love with someone and they love you back. When your married its better. If you already have that then go for it. you are 18. If you dont have that then wait so the baby can have both parents. This is probably happening to you because you probably really love children.
2006-08-15 17:32:56 · answer #9 · answered by shorty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's bad. Try getting a puppy first.
2006-08-15 17:55:05 · answer #10 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋