Need help separating True Love vs. Being Attached?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for 4 yrs. Some times I feel like we're still together because we're just used to each other. And at other times I feel like we're meant for each other. I've been with him through hard times in his life and he's been there for me. But I know that if I really loved him I wouldn't be thinking of my ex either.I know he really loves me, he's also been talking about getting married within next year.If he asked me I wouldn't say no, I would just tell him that I'm not ready.I'm so confused.We got into an argument 2 mos ago and I used the opportunity to break up with him. I felt horrible and at that same time felt like I couldn't be without him.He talked me out of breaking up and we're still together.It's not so easy to part with someone that takes so much part in your life.We used to have sex most of the time and now we hardly do it once a week.I used to make excuses when I didnt want to have sex, but know that I haven't had him, I need/want him.
What am I to DO??

Answer 1

I am a firm believer that when one has doubts about being with someone, there are issues that one refuses to come to terms with.
You have to try to discover what your issues are.
-Have you fallen out of love and simply need to put some spice back into the relationship?
-Are you with him because there is no one else?
-If there was a chance to get back with your ex would you leave this guy in the dust?
-Do you need/want him or just a warm body?

So many things to consider...