ive been married 2 times.i have been thinking about my ex husband alot and i want him back but i am still with my current husband.sometimes i would just rather be alone and i have 3 kids to raise.i cheated on my ex so i dont tink he will have anything to do with me.i just feel depressed all the time.
2006-08-15 10:08:42 · 18 answers · asked by lld61378 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not here to Judge you in fact I'm here for the complete opposite..You asked and I'll tell you what I think now whether or not you listen is your choice..
First off what you did in the past is history..People always want what they can't have and because of some mistakes you made in your past you messed a marriage up and that is something you have to learn and grow from..There is no turning back....Second of all you took a vow when you married this second husband and you owe it to him to be the best wife you can be..If you can't follow through with your vow and your unhappy then you should leave him. If you are depressed there are some issues you need to deal with..You can not make others happy until you are happy yourself, it's not fair to others that you drag them down and make their lives unhappy because of your own unhappiness. Pull yourself together, Get out of the house, work, pick up some hobbies, spend more time with your children, and work on yourself and the rest will come together..
Prayer is a good solution. God is good and he will help you in whatever decision you make..Cheer up and be happy and thankful for what you do have..a husband and children! Stop focusing on the past..Forget about your first husband..What's done is done..Forget the past, live the present and dream the future!
2006-08-15 10:23:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you might have rushed in too soon.
You say you cheated on your ex, was it with your husband now? If so that old saying "the grass is not greener on the other side" has hit home. If it was not your current husband then did you marry the second time for security instead of love? This may account for the reason behind your thinking of your ex a lot. Do you mean you want to be "alone" alone or you just want to raise your kids by yourself? If it's the former you do need to seek some help to work through your depression before it overtakes your life. If it's just you and the kids against the world then I'd say your on a guilt trip over cheating on one man and cheating out another and it is not setting good on your heart. If this is so, walk away for a while with your kids, don't just dump and run from your husband, tell him some truths and why you need this time away. Things may look better after you get yourself mentally stable. Good luck
2006-08-15 17:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you want your ex because of how you messed things up never knowing what could have come out of the whole situation if you would have acted like the wife you should have. Its not fair to your current husband to have these feeling for another man ex or not.
You need to look yourself in the mirror and make a decision, because you are not being fair to yourself or your husband.
If you have feeling and urges of being alone maybe that is the best thing for you to do. What if you come across your ex and these feeling come out and you have an intimate moment with him you have cheated again on husband #2...I know with the way you are feeling it would be hard to resist your ex.
Be a woman and communicate first with yourself and then with the man in your life.
Its not fair to drag him along if your heart isn't really in it allow him to find someone who will true to him and love him as he needs to be loved.
2006-08-15 17:19:49 · answer #3 · answered by sweetcincylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about your ex and start concentrating on your current marriage. Thinking about you ex isn't going to help things - you are married to a new man and your marriage deserves your attention. Get into counseling and/or go see your doctor about your depression. You may be clincally depressed and medication might help you out a lot.
2006-08-15 17:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just lonely and feeling guilty for messing up your marriage with your ex. Maybe you do need to be alone. Raise your kids thats whats important. Maybe seek some counseling. See why you're be self-destructive. That will help you be a better parent once you're happy with yourself and your life.
2006-08-15 17:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all tend to idealize the one we are not with anymore. You would not have cheated on your first husband if you were happy. Why don't you try to make yourself happy before you ditch another relationship. Maybe it's not them! I had this same problem. I had to get my own friends and get my own interests. After that, life was much better.
2006-08-15 17:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by vdixon79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't decide who to be with then you are not ready to be with anyone. I suggest the single life for you. Give that a few years, get to know and love the real you, then you will have more to bring into a relationship
2006-08-15 17:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, you dont think your ex will have anything to do with you. So, why think of him when he's so over with you. And its not even fair with your current husband. You're hurting people who loves you. And when they don't love you back, now you're regretting it.
2006-08-15 18:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by denathene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep it up and you will be all alone. People like you make this world a bad place, Not caring who you hurt, just caring about YOUR wants...think of your kids...and the husband you have now...
2006-08-15 17:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that you should want to be with your husband now. You already cheated on one husband. Now you want to reck another marriage. I think you should be with the husband that you are with now. The other marriage is over.
2006-08-15 17:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by Vthokie25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋