how come there are so many young single mothers these days?

Question

i find more and more young people are satarting fmaily and than for one reason or aother one leaves or cheats ect.and its over.why have kids if your not going to stay together and raise the kids proper .its hurts me to see this more often all over the world.

Answer 1

The reason that there are so many single mother in the world are because some of the females are selfish and want to out the father on child support for themselves, they cheat on their spouse, or they are just stupid. I don't like to see kids going through rough times in their life just because their mother or father or both of them couldn't think about the needs of the children, if they did there would probably be less kids running away from home, less kids doing crazy and ridiculous things to end up in juvenile or jail, less kids killing themselves because they think that they were the reason that their parents are not together. I think that before people lay down and have sex and try to make a child they should think about the child and not themselves, and whether or not it is the best thing to do.

Answer 2

Because these young girls are in a big hurry to grow up or appear grown up and don't really think or have the maturity level to think about what they are doing before they do it. Grant it there are some young people out there who end up pregnant unintentionally and there are some young moms and dads out there who could give a married couple a run for their money regarding parenting any day.As for the comment on "why have kids if your not going to stay together and raise the kids proper" , I wasn't a young mom when I had my daughter but I didn't stay with her biological father because he was very abusive and I wasn't going to allow my daughter to be subjected to that type of behaviour so we left, since then he has not contacted her and he has never paid a dime of support. SO I guess what I am trying to say here is that it doesn't always take two to "raise the kids proper" as you say. I give the young people a lot of credit when they find themselves alone and raising a child if they are being a good parent.No one can ever predict their future and be able to know if they will be together forever no matter what age they are when they have a child.

Answer 3

A very good question.
A simple answer would indicate that American culture is the root cause.
That culture is further driven by the media (magazines, radio, television, movies, etc...) and efforts to elevate the teen and pre-teen to celebrity status.
So, a lot of little girls are not going to be the next Britney Spears (or whomever the next pop star du jour is) so they resort to the next best thing: mommy.

Problem is, these little girls are more likely to get sexually transmitted diseases, problem pregnancies, little or no education and even less chance at a promising career.
And there is a large percentage that will live iin an abusive relationship because they don't know any better.

And then this culture of preggo teen moms raises a brood of kids who only know about early sex, no education and poor-paying jobs.

Is it any wonder that there is a rise in child sex crimes and crime in general?

Abstinence is great, in theory...but when you're an uneducated teen being pressured by some guy (or, thinking that this guy will stay with you if you have his baby), keeping the legs closed is very, very difficult.

Abortion (right or wrong) is not really a good solution for these teens, as it is very harmful for their young bodies.

Adoption? Most of these ignorant little girls have a fantasy that they'll be the best mom in the world.
Well, the road to hell is paved with good intentions, but the reality and facts weigh against any hope for their babies.
Try to pry the baby away and you'll end up in court.

Welfare? I'm too darn tired of paying for teen moms to keep popping out babies.
Maybe we should have a one-baby-per-unmarried-teen rule.
Any more means sterilization...or at least mandatory insertion of Implanon.

Just a thought, though!

Answer 4

Men for many ages were security to a woman. Today a woman recieving child support who has a decent job can do just fine on her own and many do. Women are pickier about relationships, they want love, they want security, they want a whole lot of things that men are unable or unwilling to provide today. The current economy in the US heavily favors women as productive jobs have dried up such as manufacturing, engineering, technology. So far health care and service based sectors have stayed afloat. That will of course change dramatically soon. I think you'll see the trend reverse in a big way when the loss of productive jobs ripples into the service economy and people find no job safe. Already a single income is almost impossible to live on. Few people can do it. Single mothers are eligible for Gov programs and or recieve child support. Though men are earning less today and enemployment is becoming a major problem with men under 50. So being a couple will again have major economic advantages if the lady can find a guy with a job. Doesn't have to be a good one, just a steady one as good ones are getting rarer by the day.

If we start making things in the US again you might see it swing back to more single mothers.

Beyond economics, relationships are much more dynamic today. There is no shame for man or woman to have been in dozens in thier lifetime. Many lives were ruined by the must stay married no matter what ideal of centuries past. Society has swung too far to the opposite now. People ditch relationships for trivial reasons today. Get into relationships thier not serious about but the partner is. This applies equally to men and women in this aspect today. So relationships have little durability. This is agrvated by the economic problems. Financial issues being the #1 cause of relationship failures. If the man loses his job for any reason it's a blow both to his self esteem and to the woman's opinion of him. Men very rarely leave a woman because she lost her job. It would be considered using her if he did. Women frequently leave men because of loss of job. The better the economy the fewer failed ralationships. Especially where the economy relates to male employment. The worse the economy the higher the failure rate among relationships. So the rapidly growing number of single mothers is actually one of the better indicators of whats going on in the US economy.

Those are the primary reasons. A healthy economy and a little more sticking power in relationships and you would not see nearly as many single mothers.

Answer 5

Great Expectations & Disillusionment. They expect to live happily ever after, but sometimes it just doesn't work out that way. For example, when I was married the first time, husband cheated constantly, as he seen his father cheat constantly; for him that was the way it was suppose to be. I didn't realize this when I married him. I wasn't raised that way. If they are a liar, & a cheater, they are also a M-f-er & a thief. [which he proved to be all of these things]. A sneak, too! You don't want your kids growing up thinking that this is the way it is suppose to be. Spare the children watching their mother cry. Life is short, HAPPINESS is one of the most important things in life. I got away from this while the kids were still little, thank goodness; some women don't & their children have to experience the same thing, waste years & years, they grow up & are too submissive or abusive in their future relationships, & the cycle repeats itself. This also applies to those that live with in abusive situations. I am suprised there aren't more Lorena Bobbit cases reported! That woman made history & headlines! It amazes me that Self Reliance isn't taught in the schools. Women have been dogged since the beginning of time; go figure! Fortunately, I did the right thing & my kids are well adjusted, happy, healthy, pro-active adults; although the negative genetic laziness shows thru the son from his father's side. I hope this answers part of your question, as I am every woman & when you eat enough sh-t, you know when it's time to start spitting it out!

Answer 6

I am 25 and have two kids and have been married six years. My husband and I have split up several times and always gotten back together. I think that in todays society the message is that it is better to be apart and not fight than to be together and fight in front of the kids and people are constantly splitting up everywhere, all you have to do is turn on the tv and you see it. So basically divorce is so accepted by society now, that people do not think that there is anything wrong with it. Plus, everyones answer to everything is split up, leave his as*, leave her as*, nobody hardly ever offers a solution to the problem that the couple is going through, the advice that you will get is just split up. The bottom line is society does not value relationship and marriage like it used to and like it should.

Answer 7

You say YOUNG mothers, thats your reason right there. Too many young people are jumping into the sack with the first person that they "love", often times, get pregnant prior to marriage, and then get married, a few years later they grow up and realize this isnt what they wanted and there you have it. But you cant tell these young people anything, because they just KNOW they are in love and it will last FOREVER, because they KNOW everything. Live and learn through your mistakes I guess.

Answer 8

Because there is more than one way to RAISE a child properly. I adopted my daughter as a single parent and she is growing up happy and knows she is loved.

Life just isn't that simple and predictable for a couple to KNOW if they are going to stay together. Sure, that's the goal, but all kinds of things can happen that can cause a couple who had the best of intentions of staying together for the rest of their lives to decide to end a relationship.

The world today just isn't as simple as it used to be. Plus, people have more choices. You sound like you're still living in Leave it to Beaver-land.

Answer 9

What do you think that the age of girls being mothers has gone down??? or the fact that there is an alarming amount of younge men not being there for there children or the mother of there children?? In the 1800 girls got maried off at 16 to start a baby factory. But the difference being that men were brought up to be resoponcable and to take care of there familys and to have respect. Younge girls dont just "get preg." its not like a rash that happends all by its self its our youth being brought up with low self esteem and no respect for them selfs.

Answer 10

I have a theory. I believe there are several influences that are relatively recent phenomena.

There has been more and more sex in the media that young people are exposed to and this has caused them to become sexually active younger and younger. In this same vein, communications has also made it easier for people to hook up.

The internet has also made it very easy to (pick one) cheat on your partner, shop around for a new partner, "accidentally" get involved with someone else while you're attached. You get the picture.

The world as a whole is becoming more affluent. More workplace opportunities seem to sway parents away from parenting and more toward their jobs/careers. Many modern parents are not doing their job teaching kids about life.