On a more personal note, when I touch his testes, they feel a little cool 2 me. He has also had a couple of unfortunate blows to that area. Could that mean that he is infertile? He wants to seek medical attention just 2 make sure, but I think he is afraid. What can I do 2 help him...I Love Him
2006-08-15 09:51:07 · 10 answers · asked by pooda_22 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Marriage is no longer a commitment in stone. So to everyone who says that, your marriage will probably end in divorce. Shut your mouth! Anyone who gets married just to have a baby is a retard, and if you get married just for a baby, you just contibute to the divorce rate, so thank you!
But that's not what you asked about, so I apologize. It is understandable that he is nervous about going to the doctor. No one likes to hear bad news. It may not even be that he is infertile. It is a lot of stress trying to conceive and this all plays into actually conceiving. Try to make the actual conception fun again. Try it for a couple more months. Most doctors will not say there is an actual problem until you have tried for a year. Testes feeling cool shouldn't have anything to do with it. And also, just so you know, my boyfriend's best friend took a hit to the groin a few years ago that swelled them up to the size of grapefruits (literally, I am not kidding, we had to call the paramedics, it was AWFUL!!) and his daughter just celebrated her first birthday! So good luck and keep trying.
2006-08-15 11:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, there really is nothing called a "close call", either it happens or it doesnt .. lol! But, if his testes feel cool, that is ok, the colder they are the more fertile they will be, make sure that he isnt wearing tight undies, pants, shorts or anything to confine that area... and if you want to stop smoking, drinking, if you do, and lower your stess level, all of these can play a factor. If you want to see a dr, they want to know that you have been trying for over a year usually before they do any testing, fyi!
2006-08-15 10:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by dnmhbk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's something you guys need to do together. You love each other and you want to create a child out of love. There's NO SHAME in that. Find three fertility doctors cut their names out of the phone book and ask him which one sounds right. He'll pick one.
Oh- by the way... I don't agree with the person that suggested you get married first. I never understood why people think that a marriage is a larger form of committment these days. It's just not (statistically) 56% of marriages end in divorce (MANY more if you remove the stats from the midwest). For someone to say you can't "bail" because your married is a bit nieve. All religious beliefs aside (I am a Christian by the way) all you need is love.
Best of luck,
Slainte,
-D
2006-08-15 09:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by chicagodan1974 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 03:20:15 · answer #4 · answered by strenge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him marry him so that you can raise a famiily the right way. Yes he does need to go to the DR and be tested. Just because they are cool really means nothing. If you are trying to have a baby maybe the two of you should be alright with discussing the whole DR thing without reservations. Just let him know that you are just concerned for him.
2006-08-15 09:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are trying to conceive why not get married first? I would let him get medical attention, they can check out his sperm count and make sure that his testes are producing enough healthy sperm that will be able to get to and penetrate the egg.
Get an ovulation kit to see when you are fertile and shoot for that time (no pun intended) and also, after you have sex try to keep your hips elevated to ensure that the sperm stays in your body, let gravity work with you.
2006-08-15 10:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by kimberly b 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont you think you need to get married before you have any kids? I do!! Then you have a commitment in stone and he cant bail, neither can you. Yes, go to the dr if you think you need to.
2006-08-15 09:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by genietini 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with everyone who says you should be married. I empathize with people who get pregnant by accident and they are unmarried, but to purposely try to get pregnant when you are only dating is unfair to your child.
2006-08-15 10:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by A nobody from Oklahoma 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before either one of you can see a specialist, you need to be married.
2006-08-15 10:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's God saying he wants you to be married first.
2006-08-15 09:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by Bears#1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋