I hurt somebody very deeply who has scars already from insecurities, pasts, and self destruction. I never once forgot who I loved, or as to the main goal of our relationship, I chose the little selfish mode of well, I didnt know where things was going, so I felt at that time all promises were off. I don't want to end this relationship although I see some red flags saying I should let it go. I myself have been going to counseling and weve discussed it before to insure ways of keeping a healthy relationship, but he's ready to close the door HARD. It hurts to see him hurting, and know deep down that it would be better if he would forgive me, and take the next step with me , to overcome this gloom I have allowed to come over a wonderful loving relationship for the both of us.! Your help and prayers are appreciated!!!!
I'm so ready to commit and deliver, and put this man back at the top!, P.S. I called the ex about 3 times from his phone. Thanks!
2006-08-15 09:50:25 · 8 answers · asked by C. C. 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
Let time do its wonders.
You know I am almost sure somewhere deep within you're forgiven and you're welcome back to his life but there's just too much hurt blinding him costing him to hinder you back totally,figuratively and literally speaking.
Just keep the faith.Hang on a bit longer and never let him go because you think and that according to him he has enough of you both..that's just a complete white lie when you both know that's not the truth but that hurt and that guilty feeling of "i wish i didn't do that and behaved better" kept you both exactly where you're both standing in the relationship now.When it's meant and it's sincere I can assure you it's felt.He just needed that ample time to heal,get up and stand back up to his feet and for that you have to be extra kind and give him that favor.Love him more even if that means crushing your very own heart.Sometimes there are forces in love & life that we just have no control of...it just happened.
You just stick around and be there for him as much as you can if not always.Let him know that you are there for him before when he's up and now that he's down under.It's pretty obvious you still love him and if one day soon time will confront to you and say it's really done and over,all you can do is accept and respect that it's not just meant to be.
Love him still in the corner of your heart even if you made up your mind and moved on.Let that experience if ever be a lesson to be charged in your experience that sometimes
people are bound to change..
My best wishes to you both.:)
2006-08-15 10:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by cascadingrainbows 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time for someone to learn to trust you, but it only takes a second for them not too, thats crazy but thats the way it is. My suggestion would be to let him know exactly what you said about commiting and deliver and putting him back on top. He needs to hear this often and keep working on letting him know how important he really is to you. Put yourself in his place and think of how you would feel and what you would need and want to overcome being hurt.
2006-08-15 09:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by shannon t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so wait.. these troubles are because you called your ex from his phone? .. or did you have sex with your ex.
if the former, then he's overreacting, and may be hinged in something from his past baggage, and I think couple's therapy might be helpful - but if the latter, you've a tough row to hoe - infidelity is a difficult betrayal to forgive..
I guess a tthe end of the day - all you can do is say you love him, try and prove you love him .. but be preapred to, as the song says: " If you love somebody, set them free"..
2006-08-15 09:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally want to know the answer too, I hurt a lot of people very very important to me... I keep telling them I'm sorry, but after a point, it just feels empty and redundant... if you really mean it, they'll know.
2006-08-15 09:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by Haley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thier is no easy answer to this time that is what it will take prove to him it is him you want words are just that words actions speak louder than words so show him you want him and he will come around but it wont happen over night good luck
2006-08-15 10:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by steamroller98439 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welll....if you find out the answer to that one...let me know...cuz i hurt my exbf real bad and i keep apologizing and trying to prove that i have changed....and he wants me but he doesnt want to get hurt again....and i dont know what to do...i have been apologizing and trying to fix things for going on 3 months now....good luck ace
2006-08-15 09:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damage is done...No use trying to heal things.Only time will make things better for both of you.
2006-08-15 09:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by Joe P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is wait for them to forgive you... You can't force.
2006-08-15 10:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by Cutie Teacher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋