Why would a woman partner think explicit chat is cheating?

Question

I cannot seems to understand why my female partner finds on-line explicit chatting offensive and even so far as to think of it as cheating on her.

Any thoughts?

Answer 1

maybe she feels you are giving the on line woman attention you should be giving her. Maybe it makes her insecure. Whatever the case if it bothers her and you really care about her maybe you could stop the explicit chatting.

Answer 2

Well she could see it that way because thats exactly what it is!!! How do you define cheating if not sharing an explicit sexual interaction with someone other than your wife!

Cheating is anything you wouldn't do with your partner right beside you (if its not right you wouldn't do it with them looking) and/or anything that it wouldn't be ok with you if your partner was doing it (don't expect anyone to put up with anything that you wouldn't put up with yourself). Would it really be alright with you if she had other online bf's that she had these 'chats' with?

You decided not to call it cheating in order to give yourself an excuse to continue doing it. Let me tell you this is NOT something most wives would tolerate and those that did tolerate it would do it only because they have some wharped fear keeping them from sticking up for themselves. Regardless of your opinion it will destroy your relationship just the same as if you were doing something you considered cheating, although I would guess you could find a way to excuse yourself in any situation.

She is your wife, she feels hurt and betrayed by what you are doing....you shouldn't need or want any other explanation than that, you are supposed to care how she feels above anything else and certainly above your penis! If her feelings don't matter to you do her a favor and leave her so she can find someone that is capable of truly loving her instead of wasting her life in a half a marriage like this one.

Answer 3

It is a form of cheating and here's why; If you were in public and met a stranger, then started discussing sexually explicit things, would you tell your girlfriend? Or say the shoe was on the other foot, would you be alright with your girlfriend doing it? The only difference here is that you are using a computer instead of face to face contact. If you want her to make it ok, do it on-line with her, include her. Or go back to regular porn. Then again, there's always the thought of sharing your explicit fantasies with your girlfriend.

Answer 4

Okay I agree with your female partner, If you are talking to another person wither its on the phone, in emails, or chatting on the computer or any other version that you have done, I consider it cheating.
I think that you should put yourself on her side and see how you would feel if she was the one doing it to you. I am sure you would feel betrayed and cheated on.
So if you do respect your partner then you should not be doing something that could cause your relationship to end unless that is what you are waiting for or wanting.
good luck

Answer 5

You clearly do not understand the rules and regulations of being in a relationship. Cheating is cheating period. It represents a need that is not being fulfilled by your partner. You're being totally insensitive by considering this not cheating. Try looking at it from her point of view. Would you allow it if she was indulging in explicity chat with some other guy? Think about it.

Answer 6

The personal/sexual nature of explicit chat could very easily be seen as cheating.

The issue most likely is that you are interacting with another person.

Ask your partner this: If you were just looking at explicit pictures online, would she be as upset? Probably not.

Answer 7

If you have a female partner why do you need to have explicit online chat with other women??? Maybe you should let your partner go and just have cybersex for the rest of your life.

Answer 8

The fact that you feel the need to chat explicitly with another female other than your own IS cheating. Also, she probably doesn't feel like she's good enough for you that you have a need to go online and chat w/ other women.

Answer 9

it would be more understandable to her if you watched porn or something... online chat can lead to actually meeting people and following through with your chat in person... aside from that open communication is the key to any relationship if she is uncomfortable with it then you shouldn't be doing it because she means more than some explicit chat right? In any case if she is willing you two could chat together with other horny couples or talk dirty to each other instead... role play together... more fun anyway

Answer 10

Let's put it this way...If it's something you would not do right in front of your partner because you don't want her to know about it...it's cheating. Physical or not. Sometimes, emotional (even lustful) feelings being shared are worse than the physical. Respect her wishes or find someone else who doesn't care.