We get into fights every week and she has no respect for me. We went to the counsuler and she said we better stay together "or else". I'm scared about breaking up and I don't know what to do anymore. She's very sensitive and I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I need to explain myself. She's getting out of control! Please Help!!!
2006-08-15 09:23:41 · 23 answers · asked by ajmcleanrocksmysocks 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
P.S. I did tell her how I feel, but she took it the wrong way. She's starting to get violent.
2006-08-15 09:36:17 · update #1
What about the conculer
2006-08-15 10:11:26 · update #2
you should probably tell her how you feel. if she says she can change, give her a chance. let her down gently, saying that you enjoyed her company but things are getting out of hand. let her know what she`s doing. maybe she doesn`t realize how she`s making you feel.
2006-08-15 09:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by Beca 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your friend in not out of control....on the contrary...SHE IS IN CONTROL and in the drivers seat of your miserable relationship!!!
She's using her selfish whims to get you right where she wants you.....She's not sensitive dude....if she was she wouldn't be putting you in the position you are right now. Another thing...you don't need to explain or justify yourself to your girlfriend. If you do explain and poor your soul to her she's IN CONTROL once again.
Your counselor is a nut case too. Are you sure that person was even educated or qualified or was this counselor a friend of your friend? I would say report the counselor to the State Medical Association or better yet the Better Business Bureau. I can't believe a counselor would give you the advise to stay together or "else"
Cease communications with this girlfriend. Don't engage in conversations....change your telephone #....don't respond to emails. Don't answer your door...
Be a MAN...you know what needs to be done.....hit the road jack and don't look back.
The only thing above that truly makes sense is she has NO respect for you and probably never will. this type of female will only get worse in your relationship. Take my advice: RUN Forest RUN!!!
2006-08-22 23:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me you're in a relationship with a control freak. It's really something to read that a man is afraid of a woman. You're on the road to domestic violence body if you're not already there. Watch yourself. Should you stay friends with her, you already answered that in the first sentence. Why would you want to be around someone that you fight with every week and has no respect for you? And as far as the hurt her feelings are concerned, are u kidding me? What about your feelings? Get control of your life now!
2006-08-22 11:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by Firebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you the same thing I'd tell a female friend in this situation. You're here in this world to be more than someone's doormat, someone's punching bag. I applaud you for having the reserve to refrain from hurting her but that does not mean you have to let her or anyone else hurt you to save their feelings. Your body is your own. She has no right to do this to you and you need to have enough love and respect for yourself to walk (or run) away from this lunatic. Which is better, hurting her feelings, or having your mother pick your best Sunday suit to bury you in? Things like this only get worse, not better. If my 15 year old cousin Kamesha had listened to us, she'd still be alive. Not dead and buried before her Sophmore year in high school. Shot and left to die in the basement of her bf's home. If my 23 year old cousin Myesha had listened to us, she'd be still be alive. Not brain dead and rotting in a nursing home for 6 months before her body gave out. Beaten within an inch of her life and left to die. Get out of this now!
2006-08-23 08:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is being extremely rude, angry, and violent, then, yes, you do need to stay away from her. It sounds like that she's dealing with some real problems, and you are better off without her. She's not your friend because friends don't do those sorts of things. If you stay with her, you are just going to be controlled by her. She wants to control you, she wants to feel power over something because that's what people do when they are not well. Your best bet is just to stay away from her.
2006-08-15 09:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women can be "violent" because they've never had their nose broken in a fist-fight. When once you experience the pain of putting a nose back in joint you are more careful about the use of violence.
Leave her or break her nose with whatever is close at the time. She'll be more prudent about her next violent outburst. I promise.
2006-08-23 08:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by aviator147 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the counscellor told you to stay friends with her because she is in a very emotional state and may do something to hurt herself. The counscellor thought the best way to make you stay friends with her was to order you to do it because you see her/him as the authority and will do what he/she says. The counscellor should have been honest with you and told you this but the psychological game theory had to be taken into account to protect your friend. Stay friends with her for a few more weeks. If she continues her behaivour, then go talk to the counscellor again and ask her if she is initiating mental health care for your friend
2006-08-22 15:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by alias_47 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your friend that you would not like to see this relationship go to waste. Then tell her you would like to hang out more and grow closer as friends. If this doesn't work then tell her that the fighting was your fault (you said that she was sensitive) then say that you will try your hardest to stop fighting so you could be friends.
2006-08-15 10:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by Black Man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about staying friends or having a romantic relationship. Who said you had better stay together or else? The friend or the counselor?
I would run as fast as I can from this relationship.
2006-08-23 06:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Or else what? What kind of counsler did you go to? Run do not walk to the nearest escape route and do not look back. If she is so sensitive then why is she using violence towards you. It sounds like you are the sensitive one.
2006-08-21 18:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by mysticideas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really thnk she is not respecting you then tell her but since she is very emotional let her down easy dont be harsh but just tell her in a nicer way mabey like say " i have feeling too and i do care about you but i would like you to appreciate me more and respect me, but if thats not possible then mabey we should spend time apart till we get back on track "
or something like that
2006-08-22 19:55:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋