My wife has gained over 300 lbs in 6 months?

Question

My wife has decided to eat 5 to 6 full meals per day. She has goal to weigh over 300 lbs for the rest of her life.

She says this way men will not bother her

How can I force her to stop eating

Answer 1

It's just as impossible to gain 300 lbs in 6 months as it is to lose that much. I can understand 60, which is STILL a lot for 6 mos. Some men can be such dogs that I can understand her thinking that less men will talk to her if she gained weight. I know 2 people like this. Rather than becoming obese, which will greatly affect her health, she needs to seek professional help to see what it is about male attention that's causing her this distress. Something may have happened in her past that she's suppressed. Or it could be as simple as being raised in a more strict religious household, and it may may make her feel dirty, or like a sinner to have men say the things they do. Gaining weight will only stop SOME men from bothering her, so she'll be just as unhappy at a larger size. I hope she's able to get the help she needs so that she can go on with her life and not be so focused on men's reactions. They're always going to be like that. Good luck! =)

Answer 2

You cannot force her to stop eating, more than that you need to find her a therapist, she seems to not be playing with a full deck!!! Let her know that instead of thinking of gaining weight so men won't bother her, she should be more concerned about her health and of you not wanting to be with an obese person. What is wrong with the old fashion way of doing things??? For example telling a man with words, instead of fat, I am not interested!! She needs to grow up. So sad to know that you are married to someone so screwed up in thinking? Good luck.

Answer 3

Perhaps you would like to enforce that gaining that much weight on purpose is unhealthy, she can suffer from many things. Why does she feel that it is a need to gain 300 pounds?? Maybe joining a health club would be ideal, it would cost the same or less than the amount of food she is eating. Is she upset about something?

Answer 4

OK - which is it....has she gained 300 in 6 months, or is her goal to weigh over 300?

Sounds to me like she wants to insulate herself from something painful, has she been attacked, violated, raped, or frightened recently? Has she just begun to remember something from her childhood?

Avoidance is never the answer. You need to talk to her, or get her to talk to a trained profession. She won't stop eating until the void in her heart is filled up.

Love and understanding is what she needs to fill up on, cheeseburgers are just a temporary fix.

Besides, you can't force anyone to NOT eat, anymore than you can force them TO eat. It's out of your hands, all you can do now is love her, support her, and get her the help she needs.

Answer 5

You can't force her to do anything but wow you must really suck if she's willing to do that to keep you away! Sounds to me like this woman needs some serious and very intense therapy. If you her to quit eating so much refuse to pay for all that food, the grocery bill must be outrageous!

Answer 6

are you sure this is her goal? I think your wife might need professional help boo. she is not going to be happy when men do stop bothering her, especially her husband. you need to talk to her, and not be condescending. tell her that you are concerned for her health, and that this is not a healthy way to live. you can't force her to stop eating, but stop giving her the dick, I guarantee that will get her attention.

Answer 7

if she gained over 300 pounds that makes her 600 pounds..lol...maybe she doesnt want other men to flirt with her cuz shes married but thats definately not the right approach nor is it healthy. take her to the dr and explain what is occuring maybe he can offer up some solutions and help for her.

Answer 8

wow...thats weird! but anyway...tell her. be kind and polite, but be honest.
tell her u don't like her doing this (not to mention its xtremly unhealthy, not only being that huge, but gaining SO much wieght in such a sort period of time is even worse for you than being fat to begin w/) but address her calmly and listen to her side of the story. if it b/c messy go to a counsler to see her reasoning behind her (not to be mean) pretty weird behavior.

:) good luck!

Answer 9

You cant stop her. She must want to do this herself. There must be a good reason for her to be doing this, I think she should maybe see a counselor for the real reason behind her wanting to gain the weight.

Answer 10

If you truely care about her and dont want her to do this damage to herself, you need to make sure she understands that. If that is not enough to make her stop, all you can do is stick by her and keep trying, And hope something works and she doesnt kill herself.