I have tried everything, talking to her, listening to her, not spanking her for months, spanking her. It has gotten to the point that i just blew up on her and spanked her, because talking to her and taking away toys, sending her to her room doesn't work. What can I do. It allso doesn't help that I am a single parent. She's very spoiled by her grandparents and I don't spoil her, but she gets alot of things. No matter what she gets she wants more. Give me advice don't down me negatively.
2006-08-15 09:12:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Unfortunately you can't stop grandparents from spoiling their grandchildren. What you can do though is make it clear to your daughter after being spoiled that she is lucky she has such nice grandparents and make sure she always thanks them for every little thing. As for not listening to you, that is a matter of being consistent and just being patient. Pick a method for punishment that you know at least bothers her some and then stick to it. I believe in spanking and I recommend that you make it clear at what point spankings will commence and then always stick to that. Never spank her out of anger and frustration. Spank her as a tool for discipline and make it clear to her why she is being spanked. Things won't change over night but I think if your consistent with your punishment then in time it will work. Remember, you are the parent so don't take any crap from your kid. If you let her get away with something just once she will take advantage of it and do it again. If she complains, talks back, throws a fit what ever, there is a punishment, plain and simple.
2006-08-15 09:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buying a child toys does not make them act the way you have described. Is she also naughty when she visits her grandparent's or other people--or just when she is with you?
She does not mind you because you have not established a consistent parent-child relationship. You stated in your answer that you have tried everything,.......you spank, then you don't spank. Children need consistency and routine. They thrive on it.
You can still establish this, it is just going to take some time and hard work. I would also suggest that maybe you talk to someone who can help you come up with a discipline plan that you can work with and incorporate into your routine.
She is still little, hang in there, be consistent and things will get better.
[Oh yeah,....you did not mention if this was new behavior or something that has been going on a long time. If it is new behavior, do some investigating and make sure nothing traumatic has happened to her.]
2006-08-15 16:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents to stop spoiling her. if they feel they have to buy toys for her they can be "grandma's house only" toys. Make up a set of specific rules, and punishments. If she does not make her bed, she can't watch tv. If she does not do her homework, she cant have her polly pocket for a week, etc. you know what will motivate her. . And stick to it. If she does follow the routine she can have a reward, maybe a sticker chart to track her progress. Good work gets a star, bad behavior loses a star. Get to 20 stars and you go to mcdonalds or go to get ice cream. You have to stick to your guns and be consistant. I would refrain from spanking her, it really does not teach kids anything and can incite more rebellion. I only spank my son whn he does something dangerous, like run in the street or jump in the pool without me. Good luck!
2006-08-15 16:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spank her some more.. Listen if you spank till she cries and she begs for you not to hit her anymore. Trust me that will be the only thing to show her that you are the boss and you are stronger than her. It worked on me when i was bad!
2006-08-15 16:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Incredible 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
every time she doesnt behave, take sumthing away from her room. Start with small things like toys and if it continues then dressers beds and her carpet. If that doesnt work just smack her like the first person said or shave her head like the second.
2006-08-15 19:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must remain firm. Do not give in no matter what. If her grandparents interfere, kindly tell them that you do not appreciate them undermining your authority. You need to set it so that your child and her grandparents know that you are the boss.
2006-08-15 16:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was like that my parents through away everything that i had except my bed and 2shirts 2pares of sox, pants, underware, and shoes. That turned me around
2006-08-15 16:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in big trouble, what you need to do is talk to the grad parents and talk to your daughter, tell her that she will not longer go to grad parents. grad parents need to stop spoiled her.
2006-08-15 16:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by scorpygirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just set down your foot and tell her to listen or your grounded
2006-08-15 16:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Slap her and tell her u will kill her if she doesn't listen and leave her room empty and dont let her have a bed.
2006-08-15 16:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by milly 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋