My closest friend's support me, and love my husband to be. But marriage gets a bad rap...share your positive experiences with me.
2006-08-15 09:09:10 · 14 answers · asked by Kitten 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Waking up every morning next to your best friend. Knowing someone thinks you're beautiful even with the flu & 102 fever. Having someone to hold your hand while you wait for the Dr. to tell you if you have cancer and holding you when he does. Unconditional love, raising kids and growing old together.
2006-08-15 09:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Other than having children, marriage is about the biggest commitment that you can make that that forces you to share control over your life. People new to a strong loving relationship tend to focus on all the new things that are better in there life since it began and all the possibilities of more to come and forget about the struggles that also come in a shared life. Make sure you are both ready to deal with the worse life can throw at you and standing side by side to it. The hard ones are the ones that affect one more so than the other. It is a whole lot easier to walk away from a bad situation then it is to willingly step into one and help someone else through it. If you are both willing to go to that length for each other, nothing will ever stand between you. I will have been married to my wife for 10 years this November. I have been through some of the worst experiences in my life during that time, but they have always lead me to the best ones I have ever had and made me a better person than I thought I could be because I started seeing myself through the eyes of my wife.
2006-08-15 09:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Pundit Bandit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are LOTS of marriage horror stories. We see and hear them all the time. So? Marriage has been found to be the best way to achieve a healthy, successful life, and people's best chance of raising happy, well adjusted children. It's worked for thousands of years. There are lots of "new" strains on marriages today, both spouses working, waaaay too many things going on so you run, all the time. The social expectation that cheating is no big deal, even peer pressure to cheat. They ARE there. But, if you should be married, that is, in love with your spouse, then the pressure, temptation, and strains are immaterial. There are no guarantees, and and only a fool expects one from life, but what the heck, go with what's worked the best, out of the thousands of different ways to live that have been tried. In simple terms being married means that no matter what the world throws at you, you always have somebody on your side.
2006-08-15 10:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage may get a bad rap but you will know the right one. I have been married for almost 4 year now and we still love each as much as when we first met. He supports me, loves my kids(bad first marriage), and is always making sure we talk!!! Support, communication, and trust is what can make a marriage last. Three things I didn't have in my first one.
2006-08-15 09:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by tjflitton 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After going through 2 divorces, I learned the most important ingredient (aside from love, of course) to a successful marriage is communication. It's not always as easy as it sounds. My husband and I rarely disagree (one fight in 4 years) and we talk about things AT THE TIME THEY HAPPEN. Talk-not pout, accuse, attack, you get the idea. No letting small events build over time then exploding over something trivial. If you always know how your partner stands on things (and they know how you stand) the reason for most arguments never come up. In addition to that, never hide your loving feelings. Touch, hug, kiss, hold hands in the car, walking down the street, while watching TV. Being aloof physically leads to mental distance as well. Both are destructive to a truly happy partnership. Good Luck! It can be done!
2006-08-15 09:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They say getting married is a bad idea, but me and my husband have been married now for about 4 years but we've been together for over 6 years and we have 2 daughters. We were only 19 when we hooked up and 20 when we married so far it's been good.
2006-08-15 09:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by maribel_crrll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have an excellent, great, wonderful, fantastic marriage! everyone is gonna give u advice now some bad and some good just do what your heart wants..not all marriages are bad but they do all take work. you have to be willing to compromise. Me and my husband are a great match and we get along so well, we never go to bed angry and we solve any problems that come our way, he works hard to support us. hes always there when i need him, being married rocks!
2006-08-15 09:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As of yesterday I have been married to the same man for 37 years. We have had our good times and bad, we talked through all of our problems and mistakes. We have raised 2 beautiful children and am now enjoying our grandchildren.
Just remember take one day at a time, work through and talk through any and all problems, good and bad.
2006-08-15 09:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by picklepolly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is tough. You have to willing to work on it every day when possible, weekly when not. The people who fail at are the ones who take it for granted.
2006-08-15 09:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a confidante. Someone to share all your hopes and dreams and wants and desires with. Someone to laugh with and cry on. You'll become 2 P's in a pod. If your blessed you'll have a part of you and a part of him to cherish the rest of your life.
Some one to grow old with.
2006-08-15 09:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋