A few of my friends have run into relationship problems and come to me, I love my friends and I don't mind giving them advice or just listening but as soon as they resolve their problem with their spouse or boyfriend, they quit calling me. When they do call it is 3 or 4 times a day, at work, at home late night etc. It sort of hurts my feelings.
2006-08-15 09:08:33 · 10 answers · asked by metalicgirl69 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sounds like they are up their mens butts and when fighting need to get out and prove they have a world besides them which equals you.Every one is caught up in their own worlds- women and the guys, have their own routine they follow when things are going smoothly that just involves them, so when things go wrong of course they are obsessed with talking about their men.The part that goes wrong is that when everything is hunky dory-they forget about you,the overlooked supportive Friend.I'd call them afterward and point it out after things are good for them and their relationship."hey- you cant talk? what about last week when I was at work and the world wasn't all sunshine and roses"
2006-08-15 09:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too great a shoulder to cry on. I had a friend like that and he was miserable for the longest time. He was single, but all these girls kept on coming to him for moral support when their relationships were on the rocks and he was great to them. Once they sorted out their problems, the girls never called again until the next crisis.
Those people aren't really your friends. They use you like a free counselling service. Help them if you like, just don't consider them your friends. Real friends wouldn't do that.
2006-08-15 16:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel you.I have the same problems .i just want to deal with my own and not there's too.and have a relationship so that i don't always have to listen to them complain about one another.i say just say I need some me time once in awhile.call me on my days off and I will be more clear headed and you might solve the problem yourself too. iam here if you still need just to vent etc..
2006-08-15 16:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by travellinghotty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been there - both ends of the problem. the reality is that as human beings we are selfish and look out for only ourselves. ur friends call u when they need u and when things are better they put u aside. be there for them tho - in the end its appreciated and it makes u a great friend. also, if the relationship fails, they'll know that they can count on u!
2006-08-15 16:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by dvl_n_dskyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u shouldnt complain about that because you already know that these girls come to the person they trust the most when they have problems..and thats you. so now i think u should call THEM more often and go out...you need to just go shopping or something and feel proud that they trust you out of anyone else...i mean, would u prefare that they go to each other for advice and leave you?
2006-08-15 16:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know the feeling, they only know you when they are in problems, that is why i tell them if you are only going to call me about your stressful relationships, then dont bother to call me at all.
2006-08-15 16:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooooohhh ok listen to me ok .... see when u give friend adivce and shyt u should have faith n u and u should have the same ....rite and if they were ur friend they wouldnt do that to u .... see me and ma freind are like sista and tell eacha otha everythin .... but u should stay n touch and c whats up wit them ....and ask them y they do that ,....... shyt and tell them ur feelins a breakin form there freindship doe ... is that good and enogh if u have question just contact me on lovejeaneittababi13@yahoo.com on messager ok thank ~Bell@ b@bi
2006-08-15 16:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by B3LL@ B@BI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Friend" like that suck. They are just using you. Tell them it hurts when they pull stuff like that. If they still don't include you in their drama-lite lives, it might be time to be less available to them and get some new friends.
2006-08-15 19:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by m&m_manic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are not really your friends. Or they just feel like the only time they need you is when they are having problems. your just someone to complain to.
2006-08-15 16:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jolie' 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they are not friends,,just some folks who want to use you.
2006-08-15 16:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by Robin P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋