how do you tell your friends that the doctor said you only have a year and a bit to live...?

Answer 1

wel, if you want to keep your freinds, dont tell them. i made the mistake of telling my friends when they asked after they noticed some changes in me, in the last year, we have been invited to parties etc, 1 time. not that we would probably go, but to be still considered in the circle and receive an invitation would be great.
my advice, if you dont want to be alienated, dont tell.

Answer 2

Boy, that's tough. I am so sorry to hear that. I guess the best thing would be to ask your doctor if there is a counselor you could consult about this. You will probably need some help that way yourself in the upcoming months, too.

Religious counselors like priests, pastors, and rabbis have training in this area, too, if you are a person of faith.

You could consider hand-writing a letter to each and sending it, too. Or telling your best friend and delegating the duty to that person to tell others.

Answer 3

the best think is not hold it in ,talk about it,you will hurt more by waiting, then too talk, my doctor told me 6 years ago i was a walking time bomb,i stopped taking all meds, 2 years ago i feel better now then before, remember doctors are not always right.six years ago they give my wife 3 month to live she made it for 14,so may be you do have longer then you think,be honest with yourself let you friends know how you doing ,most if them well be there for you when the time comes

Answer 4

Don't.

Wait a few months, keep things normal. Try to get in your last bit of normal life. Once the symptoms really start then sit all your friends down at a dinner. Maybe make them a dinner and have a small gathering of friends. Then tap your spoon on the glass and tell them. It'd be best to tell your best friend first.

Answer 5

You should probably tell them as it will give them some preparation time, it won't come as a total shock. Maybe you can have luncheon or dinner party and invite them all to tell them all at once. Let them know how much you love them and you need their support through this difficult time. Tell them you don't won't them to be sad, but embrace the remaining time you have left (if that's how you feel).

For what it's worth, take care.

Answer 6

OMG...I'm so sorry. There is no easy way to tell someone. But...once you tell one person, it will spread. My uncle had gotten cancer, and he had to tell us that he had 4 months to live. He didn't even live the 4 months. He only lived 3 weeks. I sincerely hope you get longer. If you wanna chat, you can IM me...it's pink.london

Answer 7

Hint at the things you would love to do, such as a european trip, a cruise, etc. but don't say your going to die. Maybe you and your buddies can plan something, why should you just wait until your dying to do fun stuff with them..do it NOW !

Answer 8

That has to be difficult, for sure. Just never give up hope, and do tell those who mean a lot to you. They will want to support you in a tough time like this.

Good luck!!

Answer 9

if i would have been at ur place then i think i would not have told it to anyone as i don't want my friends to live in gloom due to me

Answer 10

Be as nice as you can about it but be expecting tears and symathy.