Ok here is the dirt. My wife was in good shape when we met; we had a great sex life for a while. After two kids, we slowed down and she put on alot of weight. Additionally, she injured her back a few years back and the only sex we can have is her on top. (Not the most comfortable for me).
Recently, I have had to take a job out of my home state where I am only home about two weekends a month. I miss my family.
Problem. I'm horny. There are alot of GOOD looking women around me most of the day. I fantasize about having good sex again. My wife and I used to call it "Around the world", when we used a bunch of different sexual positions during one session.
Am I doomed to pretty much celibacy except for the occasional squash session? I don't want to cheat on my wife, I know that's wrong. What do you think I should do?
2006-08-15 09:00:50 · 27 answers · asked by JohanStulmer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Clarification: I am not looking for anyone's approval to cheat. I just want to know how to deal with my situation. Thanks!
2006-08-15 09:20:14 · update #1
Read my statement again. I have not cheated, and I am not going to cheat. My wife and I have always had the arrangement that you can look but you can't touch. Hope this helps.
2006-08-15 09:44:20 · update #2
I think you should hold on... take a very cold bath and think about what your wife means to you... you didn't marry her for the sex,,, for that you should have just kept on running arround banging anyone. You married her because she means something to you.. she gave you two human beings that you love and will give your life for.
Remember, whats a while of pleassure goin to last? 20-30 mins max??? Is it worth it? Don't learn things the hard way man. Ussually we know how much we need something when we loose it.
2006-08-15 09:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by Ricky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people in this area agree with each other. Cheating will throw a meaningful relationship down the drain. Would you be willing to risk a wonderful life for a quickie? No. No. No. Talk to her. Try to arrange a romantic evening for you two. Explore and find a position, or method of intimacy that can work. Oral can help as well. It is a great alternative, GREAT alternative. You can make this work. Remember, you said, "til death do us part." So, Tell your wife you love her, then show her that you mean it. Just because you see candy doesn't mean you have to taste it. Candy isn't always good.
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2006-08-16 14:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not cheat on her. That could destroy everything you've worked hard to accomplish. Be honest w/her and tell her how you feel and let her know what point you're at and where it may lead. You have to talk to her.
By the way, there are several other positions that are OK for someone with a bad back-from behind, spooning, etc. Find a book that has different positions and experiment with which ones are more comfortable for her.
2006-08-15 16:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey
this is hard because of her back situation, BUT! does your insurance cover a chripractor, most insurance companys do! and since she is gained some weight, when your home ask her to go for evening walks with you (my hubby and i do this) you get to talk and excercise. if you do it as often as you can she will start noticing her body getting stronger and losing weight! she might start walking while your away too! tell her, lets get healthy! make it seem like a group effort, that way she wont be offended, the more weight she loses the better she will feel about herself, thus feeling more sexy! Keep strong you know relationships have there ups and downs! And if you do cheat, NOT SAYING THAT YOU WILL---take it to the grave!
2006-08-15 17:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by rayjenne24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy that's a hard one..But if you truly love your wife and your family. You shouldn't cheat on her no matter what. But trust me I do understand it's easier said than done. But stay true cause your wife (if she's a true woman) your wife will be the only woman down for you when everything is bad so why mess that up for a quick Nut
2006-08-15 16:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by Sir J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wutever happened to plain ole honesty?? tell the old lady she needs to step up to the plate and lose some weight. then u need to spank ur monkey as much as u need 2 get ur mind off cheatin. unless of course ur just lookin to cheat anyway. just b prepared 4 da consequences. the most pathetic person is the one who doesnt realize the consequences and than is wondering how his family was destroyed and kids are all f uck ed up.
and why cant u make luv 2 ur overwieght wife? u some kind of male god with a perfect body?
2006-08-15 16:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by mex-o-funk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright, cheating is not the answer to this one. But like the saying goes: "Just because you're on a diet, doesn't mean you can't look at the menu." Meaning, talk to your wife. Let her know how you feel. Shoot, and if it works...well think of all those sexy *** bitches you are surrounded by and I bet that would rock both your socks!
2006-08-15 16:10:37 · answer #7 · answered by Sugaree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T Cheat!!
Have you tried putting pillows under your wife's tummy to support her back. Or if she is on top....instead of having her bend over you....have her sit straight up with your legs to support her on the sides and back.
I think if you two managed to work on this you could.
And maybe some help in here department with you in walking and exercising would help too, her weight, her energy level and your sex desires.....
2006-08-15 16:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by kickinupfunf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are selfish. I will never underestimate a man anymore. Stop putting your needs first. Have you ever asked her to do it a different way? You think woman have to spice it up why don't you do something different for a change. Don't cheat on her no one deserves that! I'm disgusted! Why is it when woman gain weight it's disgusting and when a man does it's ok? That's BS!
2006-08-15 16:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you guys can join a gym together or work-out in someway together. Her back will probably feel better if she loses some weight as well. Just be careful not to sound critical or unattracted to her when you suggest this. I'm sure if you help her to feel better about herself she will be motivated to lose some weight.
Good luck and good job on staying faithful! :0)
2006-08-15 16:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋