My boyfriend of 2 years just asked me to move in with him and I am not sure if I am ready for that..I am 24 and scared! We have a great relationship and have so much fun together, but all of my other friends that have moved with their bf's wind up breaking up! What would you do? Would you go for it, or keep things the way they are and wait until we are engaged??
2006-08-15 08:54:39 · 11 answers · asked by Princess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's awesome that you're thinking and not just doing what everyone else does or says to do. It's obvious that you really care for him and don't want to lose him. So, do as you said, get engaged and married because if you do it the other way, it just leads to pain and heartbreak.
2006-08-15 09:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't base your decision on what have happened to your friends. I bet they had underlying problems that would have resulted in their relationships ending, regardless if they lived together or not. Not knowing more information about your relationship, I would personally go for it. But if you are having doubts, I would think long and hard before taking the plunge. Talk about the pros and cons with your boyfriend. Make a list of the pros and cons and go from there. That is at least a start. If the pros outway the cons, there you go. I think your boyfriend is ready for that next step. The question is, are you?
2006-08-15 09:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by crazedchipmunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until you both are married. Thay way you both would have more a spark. If you move in now or even when your engaged then when you finally marry, it will be the same. Not much of a spark. So go with your instincts. Also maybe it will make him want to marry you sooner than if you were to move in. He would already have you there.
2006-08-15 09:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
princess, hon you answered your own question, first you seem to know what you don't want and that's go take your time, if your nervous, well to me that speaks for you.
One thing I feel, is if he was really serious about you, then he wouldn't ask you to move in, it would have been a proposal instead. after all, you said he was your boyfriend of two years, then again if your not ready to move in together , you might not be ready for marriage either, just a thought,
you seem like a very smart lady to take your time and be sure of what you want, you should feel comfortable whatever you decide.
2006-08-15 09:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't move in until your ready. How about spending the weekends there for a while and test the waters?
2006-08-15 09:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres no rush i think you should wait till you get engaged or married. You don't want to ruin a good relationship!
2006-08-15 09:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by not_your_average*chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait... I moved in w/my b/f after 4 months we have loads of fun but we also argue a lot and can't work anything out. I regret it sometimes.
2006-08-15 09:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by jessi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait, it'll take the fun right out of the relationship unless you want to play house to see what its like to be married.
2006-08-15 09:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ever do anything if Ur heart is not into it, if you move in just to please him you'll be unhappy. he has known u 2 yrs saying I'm not ready yet should not cause a huge problem, if it does u wasted 2 yrs with don't waste anymore
2006-08-15 09:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't go for it and move in then you'll never know how it would have all turned out! if i were you id go for it! if its meant to be then it'll all work out and if it isn't then it wont! move in and have some fun! you'll only regret it if you don't!
2006-08-15 09:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋