Why is it easy to give others advice re personal issues and not be able to sort your own problems out?

Answer 1

becuase when you're giving advice, that is all you're doing. You don't have to take the difficult steps of action that will accomplish what you advised.

Answer 2

There is a *big* difference between knowing the right thing to do and actually practically doing it

also, sometimes people find it easier to deal with other people's problems than facing their own.

I don't think it's always easy to give people advice, but it helps if you can put yourself in their position and try not to be too judgemental.

For me answering questions around here is just my attempt at being helpful. Ive had plenty of problems of my own, now I'm happy and probably pretty even minded. It's nice to feel like maybe you helped somebody in a small way, learned something or to just take part in an interesting discussion every day.

S
x

Answer 3

It's always easier to see problems from an outside point of view. When you are involved you get mixed up with emotions and can't really see the whole picture. It;s the same thing as when you look back in hindsight. The problem is resolved and you can view it from a different angle.

Answer 4

Your own emotions aren't involved and going to cloud your judgement.
Sure its easy to look at someone who just got beaten and say "you need to leave him right now." but put yourself in that person's shoes and this is a man who's they love and understand and believe can be better(and possibly be right about, but still shouldn't stick around to find out for their own health/sanity's sake)
And the saying "Love is blind" is very true. I was reading about research done by two UCL neurobiologists that there is biochemical changes when you are in love that blocks frontal lobe function which is where social judgements are made. And therefore you won't be able to think clearly when it is about your loved one- you can't judge them socially- and well, that is what we base these pieces of advise on right? He beats you you should leave. He cheats you should leave. Etc Etc.

Answer 5

I feel the same way also. But i realized that your advice you are giving out to other people doesnt incorporate your feelings. But your personal issues deals with mixed feelings and emotions so therefore you will act differently in your situation then giving advice in other situations.

Answer 6

Probably because you're more distant from it if you're talking about on here for example. When it's closer ie yourself or family, you tend to have an emotional rather than a rational input which can cloud your judgement.
I do think some ppl are rather flippant on here and give inappropriate advice or sarcasm at times!!!

Answer 7

Usually when you give others advise your drawing off of personal experience. Either it has happened to you or someone your close to.

When it's your own problem you don't have that experience because if you did then it wouldn't be a problem to you, you'd know what to do.

Experience is the best teacher...
We don't always learn from our mistakes...

Answer 8

Because your own experiences might have shown you the answer to the question asked. Been there, done that. I've got lots of problems I don't know the answers for. Or if I actually do, deep down, know them, I don't have the courage to do it.

Answer 9

Its no longer incorrect to assist others yet once you do it continuously to stay away from your person issues then specific it ought to reason extra issues and rigidity for your self. There are 2 procedures human beings take care of emotional soreness/rigidity heading off it and acknowledging it. you will desire to take an afternoon or 2 to concentration on your self and do something for your self.

Answer 10

giving advice is different from enacting it......it is up to the person who seeks advice to decide whether they really require it........anyway the person giving advice will be able to solve their problems if he has a good insight......such people will be able to sort out their own problems........it is easy to give advice for others because there is no pressure for the advisor......the person who is suffering from the problem is so confused that he cannot solve his problem.....

Answer 11

I am pretty good with my own issue, too. At least know what I need to do ... doing what I need to do is sometimes the hard part. Like since I work nights, I should be in bed now.