How do I tell my fiance I'm pregnant with his child? (older ppl please no one below 16)?

Question

We've been dating 3 years. and we recently decided to have unprotected sex. he's gotten me pregnant, I don't know if he wants kids or not. How do I Tell him?

Answer 1

well you need to sit down with him and just tell him open and honest and talk it out from there, you both chose the unprotected sex, not just you so it's his responsibility too. It's going to be hard to do, but you might find his reaction to be better than you are expecting.

Answer 2

Well, first of all, YOU need to take some responsibility for the pregnancy too! "He got me pregnant" after saying "WE recently decided to have unprotected sex." Hmmm.... sounds like a bit of the double standard to me! He didn't force you to have sex did he? So YOU BOTH are responsible for the pregnancy.

And if you both "decided" to have unprotected sex ... assuming you both knew the probable consequences, what is there to tell??? Too late now to think about "what if he doesn't want a kid" crap! You're pregnant, YOU BOTH decided to take risks, so now YOU need to tell him and get it over with, regardless of the end result of him being happy or not. Should have thought about that before sending the little guy out to play without a raincoat, don't you think?

So how do you tell him? Easy. Say, "Honey, remember that night we didn't use any protection? Well, guess what! I'm going to have YOUR baby."

Answer 3

I am 34, just so you know!

If you and he are getting married, then you should have discussed having children. If you two had been having protected sex until now, then he knew the risk of getting you pregnant.

How about surprising him? Place a home pregnancy test in a gift wrapped package and give it to him. (I did this with a new test that I hadn't used) When he opens it, he will want to know what's this about? Say "I am late and I thought we would find out together!" "What do you think?"

My husband and I had decided not to try for anymore kids.

I was scared to death that my husband would be mad as hell, because we suffered 2 miscarriages and I had just went to get my birth control pills, and they told me "too late, already pregnant!". My Dr. gave me the test and told me the same thing I just told you.

He was excited to be a father! I worked great! We have been together for 7 years and have a beautiful 3 year old!

Answer 4

He's gotten me pregnant? You've also allowed him to get you pregnant. It takes two, you know.

The two of you have decided to engage in unprotected sex. Pregnancy isn't the only consequence of unprotected sex.

Since you call him "my fiance" I assume that you intend to marry. It's a little late but there's no time like the present to discuss something as important as whether you want children. Since you didn't do it before you became pregnant, you're stuck doing it now.

As to how you tell him, how about "I am pregnant with your child". That ought to get the ball rolling.

Answer 5

If you guys have been dating for 3 years I would think you would have some idea of whether or not he wants kids. At this point, he doesn't really have the option though, because he's getting one anyway. Just sit him down and be honest with him and tell him that you guys are going to have a baby. Just make sure neither of you have plans right after you plan to tell him because he might be in a bit of shock. Good luck.

Answer 6

I am in the same situation (I knew we were going to have kids, just not this soon) I bought a book on first time pregnancy for fathers and wrapped it with the pregnancy test and then we talked about it. Before I talked to him my biggest fear was that he would not be excited (and he was) but I knew before I told him that I was having the baby and I was either going to do it on my own or with his involvement and hopefully if you've been together for 3 years you are at a good place and he will be okay with this.. just a little warning my boyfriend and I did go thru about a week of stupid fights where I was thinking I can't do this with him, etc. and I think it was the stress of realizing that your having a baby becuase now things have setteled and I am 9wks along.

Answer 7

Ok first of all.... He's your fiance and you don't know if he wants kids or not??? Shouldn't you be finding this out before you get married?

Tell him while you guys are at dinner at a nice restraunt, or if it makes you more comfortable do it at home.

I'm sure he will understand. If not then I guess it's just not meant to be....maybe you should have thought about that before you had unprotected sex....

Answer 8

If he's your fiance then you should feel comfortable telling him anything. You should of already talked about this before you excepted his proposal, but now it's too late for that. Tell him you need to meet with him because there is something very important you need to talk about. Then make sure you are not at a public place, and it's just the two of you. Sit him down and just come out with it. He will probably be scared, but assure him that everything will work out. Be positive about it.

Answer 9

Well, my guess is that if he's your fiance, he loves you... so my advice is to be honest, and decide what your feelings are about the pregnancy, then when you tell him you'll be ready to answer any questions he might have, and you'll also be able to help with deciding what you want to do about it. Just be confident and forward.... I'm sure it will all work out ok, when two people love each other, they can get through anything.

Answer 10

Sit him down first. My buddy got a concussion from fainting when his wife told him. The rest of the world held its breath in shock when they found out that he's going to be a dad. Quite a scary thought...ZING!

All joking aside, you should just tell him once he's sat down and don't beat around the bush for the first few seconds. Just tell him very bluntly. If he's a man, he'll take it as a part of life. You guys are engaged anyways, so what does it matter what anyone else thinks?