how do you tell your gonna be x husbands family that you have filed for a divorce if they like 2 rule yourlife

Question

i have mentiond it to them and they say he will change but hes been in and out of jail and i dont love him, to tell you the truth i hate him and i no ur not suppose to hate anyone but i do this man he has made the past 6 1/2 years a living hell for me and now i want out while i can! how do i tell his family and them not try to make things hard on me and my children?

Answer 1

Be calm and cool. Just tell them that you will not go on like this and they can either accept it and help the kids through this or get out of your life.

Answer 2

Well there is your answer right there, I feel like if he is a man he will make decisions that are both responsible and in the best interest for the family in helping you all have a better quality of life. When he is in and out of jail he stopped respecting you and the children with this type of behavior! Only you know what you have been through and how dare them justify a grown mans irresponsibility and neglect to advise you of his illegitimacy and expect for you to stay and excuse this type of behavior. Damn, if they cared about you they would have advised you other wise they are too loyal to the title "family" and I feel they just want you to upport his sorry *** so they won't have to! I would suggest you immediately up root and the hell with his family and what they think, tell them to help be a father figure to your children, help pay your bills, provide you some emotional stability and then may be you will negotiate allowing him to walk away with out a spousal and child support order okay honey! You don't need to tell them a damn thing you don't owe them nothing! Good Luck (they're lucky they have you and not me because honey I could make even the worst of them behave and dismiss at will)

Answer 3

well you have mentioned it, now it's time to pack up the kids and leave. (or pack up his stuff and leave it outside) Make sure you have everything in order. Meaning you have enough money and support from loved ones. You might also want a restraining order to be in place from your ex once you decide it's the right time. I don't know what kind of trouble he's been in the past, but you don't want that trouble anymore. Just leaving or making him leave is enough for them to understand that you have had it and he will not be your problem anymore. You want a better life with someone who is there for you and your kids. The kids will see his true colors if he hasn't already shown them. The biggest things I can say is be strong for them. Don't show them that you are an emotional wreck. Try to keep their lives as normal as possible. It will be hard, but it will also be the best thing for you and your family in the long run. Who cares what his family thinks. They know what he is like and they know you have given him chance after chance. If they hate you, they aren't worth having in your life. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Are you kidding? You have been living in hell for the past 6 & 1/2 years and you're concerned about telling his family? Get out NOW

Answer 5

You know, his family is only telling you to stick it out with him because they know that nobody in their right mind is going to put up with his sorry butt. Well that, and they probably don't want him moving back home and end up their responsibility. If you've mentioned it once, they know you are contemplating it. Now just go back, sit them down, and say you've tried. Tell them you gave it all you had and you have nothing left to give. That he's obviously not going to change, has made no effort in the relationship and you don't want your children raised this way. Then tell them that you aren't doing this to hurt them, you are just putting an end to a bad situation and that you'd still like to maintain a relationship with them for the sake of the children. They probably aren't going to like it, but honey, they see what he's doing and if they have a relationship with you now, they are going to understand eventually. Nine times out of ten, they usually side with their own child, but in your circumstance, I have a feeling they are going to be a little more compassionate. Good luck to you and don't second guess your decision. This is your life and the lives of your children, it's not their life and they don't have to deal with him, you do. You go and do what's right for you.

Answer 6

You are not obligated to tell them or even explain them anything. But If they have been supportive of you and your kids well...then you can just let them know that you have decided to move on with your life. But make sure that when you tell them, they see you as a very decisive mature woman, that you already made up your mind and nothing is gonna change it. GOOD LUCK AND GOOD BLESS YOU!! You'll see how things are gonna turn your way now that you have decided to leave the person who you think was gonna love you forever. I wish you well .

Answer 7

If I didn't love my husband anymore and wanted to divorce him, I would take great pleasure in telling his family about the divorce. I would love to tell them that I no longer have to have anything to do with them. that they are totally out of my life. I would love to be able to say that to my in-laws, but I never plan on leaving my husband so I'm stuck with his family. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. That is just less people you have to deal with in your life.

Answer 8

Just tell them and stand your ground. Tell them that you deserve better now, not five years from now. Tell them he makes you very unhappy and you must move one for your saftety and his and your sanity. Time waits for no one don't let them keep dictating to you how you should live your life.

Answer 9

Tell them "NO - PERIOD - FLAT OUT NO" -- that you are very serious. You don't have to be mean about it. They probably (really deep down) understand and just don't want to lose you.

Answer 10

You just have to be up front with some people.Be blunt about it if you have too.This is your life,not theres.Never give into anyones BS.