My ex husband is remarried. We have two small children and 8 yr old and a 6 yr old. Recently my exes wife threatened me and called me names when I went to pick up the kids from his house. I am concerned because my 8 yr old has commented before on how his wife treats my kids. She has a 18 yr old and 15 yr old. And its always about her kids. In the summer my kids go to their dads every other week. But only every other weekend in the school year. I have filed for a restraining order against his wife and am trying to get the kids included as I am worried how she treats the kids when they are there and what she says about me to the kids. This, in my eyes, is emotional abuse. My 6 yr old is being tested for behavioral issues and I think this may be part of his problem, listening to all the stuff she is saying and how she treats them when they are there? Anyone have any suggestions??? I would really appreciate it.
2006-08-15 08:15:08 · 9 answers · asked by mg123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would always have a tape recorder on me when picking up my kids and record what she says (if this goes to court you will be thankful!) Also record whatever complains your children have about the woman, and possably he kids agist them (I wouldn't doubt that her kids are doing things to your kids because they know they will not get in trouble). Also talk to your ex about how his new wife has been compaining that that the kids are so much work and seems really stressed when ever you see her. Ask her if they really wants the kids to come over. (if you have already told him about the stuff in your question, then say you just think the stress from the kids was talking... and mabey it would be easier of you came over with the kids from time to time to help maintain them.) If she hates them (and you), then she is proably pressing him to not have them come over. Tell him that you don't expect an answer until he has talked it over with his new wife. The goal is to be so nice, yet so annoying because you are always there, that she just wants you out of her house and your kids with you without a legal battle.
2006-08-15 08:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by Lib 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be concerned. Anger is normal, but right now, you don't have the luxury to be angry. Right now, the more cool headed you can be, the better.
You need to document everything she says and does to you. I would even go so far as to tape your conversations with her. You don't have to worry about legalities here, because laws governing conversations that are taped only apply to governmental agencies, not private citizens.
If you have not already(I would really have to wonder why not, if you haven't yet), you need to have a conversation with your ex-husband about this issue. Let him know just how important it is to you, that you know your children are safe when they are with him and as long as you don't feel they are safe you can not in good conscious allow them to stay with him at his house.
2006-08-15 08:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by bowtierodz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what you are doing is good. the restraining order will help. something that may help the restraining order go better is to take the kids to social services or the police dept and let them tell someone themselves how they are being treated. it worked for my mother very well because the same thing happened to me when i was a kid.
2006-08-15 08:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to get an amendment to the custody agreement that says that he can only see your kids when he visits you so they wouldn't have to go and see his wife.
You definitely have reason to be very concerned by the situation. If she doesn't treat your kids like her own you have to do something to prevent her from doing harm.
2006-08-15 08:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your child is tested have them ask about there step mother and if she i treating them bad then as a mother you have the responsibility and right to not let your children be around her
2006-08-15 08:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your children need to seek counseling immediately. A good counselor can help you with these issues and advise you re. your rights with the step mother. If she is talking negatively about you to your children, it is indeed emotional abuse.
2006-08-15 08:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ave EVERY right. Go to the courts with as much documentation as you can against her. Ask for the visitation to be changed......... you can try to make it so that she is not allowed to be with the children, but it will be very hard to do.......
2006-08-15 08:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get proof, and then take the matter to court with your proof so that you can get the kids full time. Getting ready to do that myself.
2006-08-15 08:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you thought about supervised visits for youre ex that way he still sees the kids and she cant abuse them
2006-08-15 08:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by gregg f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋