I was raped and now I'm pregnant, help.?

Question

I was at a party about two weeks ago I got drunk and don't remember anything but my friend said she found me in a bedroom naked and had clearly been raped. I took a pregnancy test and it turned out positve. I don't know what to do no. I don't even know who raped me.

Answer 1

ok can you bring yourself to love the little baby inside you? can you be it's mommy and be there for it like no one else can? OR can you bring yourself to carry the baby to term and give it to someone else who can? Really honestly try not to murder a baby. It's not that baby's fault that some assh*le took advantage of you. Life is precious.

Answer 2

I also agree with Take Me to Your Leader. When you talk to the police, they can tell you if you had clearly been raped or if it is unclear. Could of been a guy that was just as drunk as you were and by your own admission you don't remember a thing. Did you have bruises, bleeding, were you in pain, did you look like you had been fighting someone off. If you had gone to the police they could have checked whether you had been drugged. Have you never watched Lifetime. Why is it girls are still not reporting these things WHEN THEY HAPPEN. But it is better late than never.

Answer 3

I was raped at the age of 14, I became pregnant and had my son at 15. I love him very much and NO, he does not remind me of the rape when I look at him.

The rape happened to me, not my baby.

If you want to keep the baby, then do so.

Gather up a list of the guys that were at the party, talk to friends and other party-goers for this info. Don't tell them you are looking for your rapist, just say your are compiling a list for an up-coming party you want to invite them to. If possible, get addresses and/or phone numbers.

You should have gone to the hospital and filed a rape charge, even though you don't know who did it.

Then, when the baby is born, you can file for child support and request paternity test from the list you compiled of the guys at the party. You may have to hire a lawyer.

Have your friend testify that she found you past out, naked and raped in a bedroom of that party.

Please contact me and I will try to get you some help in your area. I will be glad to help. Whether you decide to keep your baby or not.

Answer 4

I read 2 whole answers and was ready to stop. However, I feel for you. I agree that partying and getting so drunk you have no clue what happened is not good, but it is not my place to pass judgement. I'm not perfect either. I can imagine how hard it must be to even think about. I can't fathom carrying a child and trying to keep the baby knowing he/she was a product of rape. However, think if other women out there who might love this child with all their heart because they cannot have a child of their own. Before you decide to terminate this or not or whatever, talk with someone. Obviously there are time restrictions as to terminations, but please...consider trying to carry to term and at least giving someone else a chcance they might not otherwise have...I'm sorry for your hurt. I hope you are seeking a friend or counselor to talk with.

Answer 5

First of all, it's really too soon to test. The pregnancy hormone hcg (which shows up in your urine and blood) generally won't be concentrated enough to be detected until at least 3 weeks after conception. You were raped two weeks ago, which means the egg was fertilized and implanted in your uterus a week ago. You're not far enough along yet to test.

Why don't you go over to the Society and Culture board and bug the people there. They're very rude and obnoxious and would probably appreciate someone like you. You'll fit right in.

Answer 6

I'm sorry to hear about you circumstances. You are in a tough situation.

Getting drunk at a party wasn't the smartest of ideas, especially since many guys go to parties looking for an easy score. I am not saying that it is your fault because nothing justifies rape... NOTHING!!!

Now it is up to you to determine the fate of the little life inside of you. It can't be easy thinking about raising a baby that was conceived in such a terrible way. Just keep in mind that that little baby is half of you. Abortion may seem like the easy way out, but it has long term effects that may haunt you for the rest of your life. If you don't want the baby consider adoption.

If you want to talk about it IM me. My IM is in my profile

Answer 7

If you don't have a clue what happened, you were probably given a date rape drug.
Get some counseling right away.
I don't know how old you are, but if you are still living at home you need to talk to your mom and/or dad right away.
If you are living on your own, you still need to talk to someone (maybe even mom or dad).
This was not your fault.
You were not "asking for it".
The person who did this to you is a sick disgusting animal.
This is also not your babies fault.
Please do not abort this baby.
There are so many good people out there unable to conceive that are heartbroken because their arms are empty.
There are many places out there that want to help both you and your baby.
http://www.adoptionnetwork.com
is one.
I know that it feels shamefull, but don't let shame control your life.
Call your pastor (if you have not been going to any church go to any Catholic Church and they can put you in touch with a crisis pregnancy center).
Again THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT.
You cannot change what was done to you, you can only react.
Don't let your reaction be something you will regret later in life.
I will be praying for you.

Answer 8

If it was just two weeks ago; chances are slim to none that that man is the baby's father...
But, in the off chance it is, I would suggest an abortion. I don't like the thought of abortion, but in the US, if a woman is raped and becomes pregnant because of the rape, the father still has full rights to the child. This means that if you keep her, your baby will have to go stay with this deranged man. And if you give her up for adoption to avoid this, he could end up with sole custody.

Answer 9

The first thing you need to do is go to the police and report anyone and everyone you can remember even being present at this party. Then you need to do some investigating yourself. That should be first priority along with seeing a doctor or health dept. to be checked for STD's. Talk to and interrrogate EVERYONE who you knew was there! I would want to find out who did this to me first and foremost. There are rape counselors that will help and advise you for free. Your police station or local health dept. could probably put you in touch with someone like this. Do not wait, do this right away!! Best of luck to you.

Answer 10

EVEN IF YOU DID NOT KNOW WHO DID IT RIGHT after you woke up and were told you needed to have gone to the ER and got the morning after pill to avoid this. I know girl who was raped at a party she went to the hospital the man WAS CHARGED and put in prison. She refused the morning after pill she was pregnant by him she now has his 3 year old daughter she kept. If keeping he/she or abortion is not the answer no one should fault you for getting a abortion do whats best 4 you NO MATTER WHAT YOU fo it will change your life. This needed REPORTED when it happend!.

Answer 11

FYI.. It is not "impossible" to get a positive preg. result after 2 weeks. If you have a normal 28 dy cycle, on dy 14 you should be around ovulating-2 weeks later you should start your period. This is when women typically get a positive result.. Also, you can take First Response test which can detect pregnancy 5 days b4 your missed period.