my husband is going out with his couisins every fridays and saturdays and sometimes he doenst call me to let me know that he's ok and he comes back at 5 or 6am and he takes my car and he doesnt have a license he got a prepaid cell and he did not tell me about it untill yesturday when i told him im fed up with his crap and he wants to work things out with our marriage but he says with the condition that he keeps going on on fridays and saturday's. the thing is that i get to stay home and do nothing i go shopping and come back at 10pm and he is still not home he says that he likes to go out his boys becuase he works verry hard and he desrves it and also that he can spend time with me on sunday-thursday becuase he works grave yard shift so i dont sleep with him and when he goes out he doesnt even come to sleep untill is day time what should i do ? do i put my foot down and say no stop or hang out and keep quite and live with it? he tells me to deal with it!if you love me!
2006-08-15 08:08:11 · 8 answers · asked by bronze23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like he is spending time with his other family
2006-08-15 09:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear are you a christain? but whatever religion you believe in I want to believe that You have heard about God. What do you know and believe about marriage? I do not think that their is any religion that encourages divorce.
Take it or you leave it something is fundamentally wrong somewhere that is making your husband to act that way so the best is not to quiet but take your time and with prayers discover what is wrong. Remeber the fight you run away from today you will surely fight it another day. There is no perfect man on earth even God knows that.
Please I will beg that you don't allow anybody decieve you to pack out of your home. God Bless you.
2006-08-15 08:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by tonero_27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds young and very immature. Keep tabs on him. Do you trust that he's actually going out with your cousins? Do you feel that he could be sleeping around or cheating? Be careful girl!
As for putting your foot down, it sounds like it's not working....marriage is all about communication, trust, love, and respect. Your husband may love you, or so he says, but he definetly doesn't respect your wishes. Have you considered marriage counseling or going to a clergyperson to discuss this? You two need to sit down and discuss things before your marriage really falls apart!
2006-08-15 08:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is doing more than "hangin out" maybe he is "hanging out with a girl?" I don't trust that bullshit for a second. And with the cell phone!!! That is just shady as hell! If you can, put some money aside, enough for you to get your own apartment and then slam the divorce papers down on the windshield of "your" car when he is leaving to go out with his "cousins"....stupid *** men!
2006-08-15 08:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by TextnQueen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am surprised you are still asking what you should do? He isn't respecting you or your relationship. If this was me, it would be over. I know you both need your space and time apart with your friends, but every week? I smell a rat. Move on and find someone that does respect you and your relationship.
2006-08-15 08:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by amberbrowneyedgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to fu#k off! You know the answer to this inside of you anyway. If smething does not seem right, trust me it ain't!! If it does not add up, there is a reason, may not be the reason you think, but there is a reason. He wants his cake nd eat someone else's cake tooo!
2006-08-15 09:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by cindy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was me i would work out a schedule--not all night on weekends, like give him 1 day with his cousins, and tell him to tell you when he will be home and call if he is going to be late and also tell him that if he loves you then he will deal with it.
2006-08-15 08:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BABY OPEN BOTH YOUR EYES, SMELL THE COFFEE, PLEASE TELL HIM WHERE 2 GET OFF AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE, LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE DEALING WITH SOME MANS B*LLSH*T
2006-08-19 06:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋