I have a friend and she does not know what to do. society is so cruel, that even though she enjoy being with a man, she have had a long relationship with a man, but when she get turned on watching a couple of the same sex kiss, or even when watching movies that have same sex-partners, she find it a real turn on. she is confused and dont know how to do. please help
2006-08-15 07:30:58 · 26 answers · asked by lasalle_1986 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What you like to watch, read, or write about and what you like to do aren't necessarily the same thing. If you doubt it, check out all those fanfic communities where there are scads of straight girls writing about various improbable m/m pairings. I know a completely straight woman who has nude paintings of women throughout her home because they're beautiful. She isn't in a closet or anything - she really likes them, but she isn't attracted to women sexually.
If your friend finds herself attracted to an actual, living female at some point, that's another thing altogether. At that point, I'd suggest that she use the same standards she'd use for deciding whether to get involved with a guy, and that she be very careful NOT to rush ahead because of curiousity and the novelty of the situation. Definitely DO NOT turn it into a threesome siutation if she's or the other woman is involved with a man at the time - that brings in too many other factors for her to be able to judge her own feelings about the experience.
No need to rush, of course. There's years to find the right person and have a first time, IF she ever does. There won't ever be another first time, though.
Good luck to your friend!
2006-08-15 07:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by TechnoMom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're bi if you're attracted to both genders.you're lesbian if you're only attracted to females.I know I was confused for a while.But I now know I'm bi.Just leaning more to the lesbian side of being bi.seeing I rarely find a guy attractive and I find girls all the time attractive.So your friends needs to take a look at whose more attractive to her.You can still be bi and be more on the lesbian side.Some are in between..some lean to one side more than the other.It is confusing but I never had a friend who has problems with me or our other friend being bi.
2006-08-15 14:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by hating and being mean is a sin 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A friend huh? you know an awful lot about this friend - sure it isn't YOU!? There's nothing wrong with bi-sexuality or homosexuality for all that matters...and I believe the human race all has those curiosities towards the same sex. Its just easier to show them as a woman.
2006-08-15 14:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by Coma 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She might be Bi if same sex (female) kissing and doing it turns her on... Maybe she just needs to eat lunch at the Y and confirm it. Tell her there's nothing to be all upset over.
2006-08-15 14:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by The::Mega 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
she's just normal really...she's not gay...its a feeling and not a choice...a gay girl would not enjoy being with a man in any way...now she may want the experience...but be careful because women already share a bond and when you add sex to it...it confuses things for those who are not gay....selah
2006-08-15 15:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by tamika h 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only she knows the answer to that question. Tell her to think about it long and hard and be completely real with herself. She knows the answer deep down inside
2006-08-15 14:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by J-Rod 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
getting turned on by that doesn't mean you're gay but if your friend is curious, a kiss from a woman will answer her question.
2006-08-15 19:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by robyn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wasn't meant to be that at all. God created male and female and he created the relationship of male and female. He did not create Eve and Jane. He created Adam and Eve. And then he told them to bare children. Adam and Steve can't do this and neither can Eve and Jane.
If she is thinking about being homosexual, she needs to think about what her conscience is telling her. If she even has to question whether it is right or not then the Lord is telling her it isn't right.
This is not your concern but if she has these thought then she may have the same towards you and you may have to address the issue when it comes up.
2006-08-15 14:37:51 · answer #8 · answered by rltouhe 6 · 0⤊ 5⤋
well if she is then she is and she should be proud im straight but some people just want to be different and theres nothing wrong with that as lon as you dont becieve in god because the bible forbids this kind of sexuality
2006-08-15 14:36:45 · answer #9 · answered by natsirt51 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
All human beings have homosexual tendencies and desires. It's just a matter of choosing homosexual or heterosexual and living with the responsibilities and consequences of your decision.
2006-08-15 14:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by deverbruce 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋