My fiance has stuck with me through some bad situations, and through a couple of huge mistakes that I have made. Most people would have left me, but he stayed with me. He loves me, I know it. And though he has made his share of mistakes, I do still care about him. I really don't think I am in love with him anymore. I don't want to hurt him, but when I try to talk to him about it, he convinces me to give it another chance. He starts to cry, and I hate knowing that I make his face look like that. Should I break up with him, or should I do what he wants and stay together?
2006-08-15 07:27:31 · 18 answers · asked by ifernnick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I guess I just feel like I owe it to him and since he knows how I feel, he still says that this is what he wants.
2006-08-15 07:36:32 · update #1
You need to think hard about this, because good men who will stick by their women are extremely hard to find. Get out there in the real world and you are liable to find out just what most men are really like. Then you would be so grateful for a man like the one you are describing that you would do almost anything. Trust me, I know. I am lucky to have a man like that after years of putting up with crap from men, and I would not give him up for all the world. I don't know your whole situation, but you are coming off as a spoiled girl. No offense - I am just trying to help you see what you are throwing away. If he doesn't cheat, is not violent, works for a living, and is good to you and your kids (if you have any) then he is a keeper.
2006-08-15 07:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Okkieneko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stay with him if you do not love him anymore. In the end, you will only end up making both of you miserable.
How long have you been with him? If you have alot of time invested in this relationship, I would try one last vacation (just the two of you) before you make your decision. You do not want to end the relationship and find out later that it was a mistake.
If you are still not sure, ask him for some breathing room. And maybe go away for a weekend by yourself to think about things. NO cell phone, email, text messages or anything!
Good Luck!
2006-08-15 07:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Neicy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you both obviously have a lot of feelings for each other i think that its probably best to end things now instead of carrying it on and hurting him and yourself more. I know it sounds selfish but put yourself and your own happiness first. do what you thinks best for you. if you don't love him anymore then maybe its time to leave and say goodbye. it doesn't mean that you cant still be friends. you need to find happiness with someone that you love and want to be with. if your having doubts and don't feel that you love him then isn't that enough to make you leave? surely your fiance would want someone that loves him back in return? personally i think you should leave... in the end though its up to you.
2006-08-15 07:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making mistakes is part of being human. Regardless of the mistake you both have made, if the love is gone you are doing more damage than good. You need to think about you first (that sound selfish but if you aren't happy how can the person you're with be?) It will hurt him but honestly, thats not your problem. People are made tough. Of course he will be hurt, but eventually he will get over it.
Think about yourself. Think about what is going to be best for YOU.
Good Luck!!!
2006-08-15 07:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I empathize with what you are saying. I have often felt the same things, and although it may not be immediately or openly obvious, there are many people in the world who have good hearts. I always put forth an effort to do my part to show love and kindness in the world. Just over the holidays, I let some folks stay at my house while their car was broke down. Kind people, although complete strangers. As long as YOU are still loving and putting forth the effort, there will always be a spark in the world. and anything that can spark can start fire. =) Stay strong in yourself.
2016-03-27 03:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you feel is right. If you don't love him anymore then you should break up with him. The longer you are together the more harder it will be. There is no reason why you should stay with him and you are miserable. Sounds like you guys could remain good friends.
2006-08-15 07:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mami of 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the feeling isn't there, don't force it. Do you want to stay togethaer and then get married out of guilt or pity for him? And if don't see the two of you getting married, why put off the inevitable? It's your life to live, and only you know what will make you happiest. This relationship doesn't sound like it will
2006-08-15 07:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by jeninsocal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what's best for you. I just left an 11-year old marriage for a chance at happiness. It's hard, but if you approach him in a calm and honest manner, letting him know that you still think he's awesome and that you still care about him (which is abvious), it might surprise you at how he'll understand.
2006-08-15 07:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I can find a man to love me that much , I thing u should give him more chances ,u don't allways have that kind of great love
2006-08-15 07:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by maysoun k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is best for u breakup with him because the same things goin to happen over and overif u don't
2006-08-15 07:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by catfeet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋