You just caught your teen downstairs...ya know...what do you do?

Question

please include if you wait till the "partner" leaves....say something immediately....etc
what do you say the the teen?
how do you handle it..etc
best answer 10 pts!

Answer 1

Ok, they will both be embarrassed. I'd say sit down with both of them and have a chat. Ask if they're using protection, do they need protection? Do her parents know she's sexually active? Does he know how to put on a condom? You won't stop them from doing it, so educate, educate, educate and prevent pregnancy. Make sure the parents of both those kids are aware and try to treat them like adults or else they'll get some crazy ideas in their heads to run away or something. That's what I would do.

Answer 2

Suddenly skip into the room and say in a stupid sing song voice "Why, hello, whatcha doin'!?!?" then pretend you just saw what they were doing and say "OoOoOoO, i guess it's time for the sex protection talk!!! You kiddies get your clothes on while i make lemonade!" in the same dorky, overly cheerful voice. When oyu get back give them a REEEEAAALY long and REEEAAALY humiliating talk about condoms and birth control in the same cheery tone. Include some stories, even if there made up, about your 'past experiences'. Then wrestle them into your vehicle and drive them to the closest store with a huge selection of contreceptives and and tell them to pick out the size of the condom/the pill and make sure you're there watching. They will be more likely to get birth control so you don't know his 'size', which is good because birth control pills prevent pregnancy better. buy LOADS of boxes (get some morning after pills too, just incase). When your paying for them talk to the cashier like "I just can't believe my ickle little daughter/son is all grown up!" Make sure its a completely and utterly humiliating experience for them so they'll thiink twice about it next time. When you get back, hand them the contraceptives and say "good luck!!", once again in the dorky cheerly tone. Then head back upstairs. At least they'll be practicing safe sex.

Answer 3

I am not sure how I would react myself. I know that freaking out about while the partner is there is just going to drive your child away and to do more things like this. I would talk to your child after the other person has left. Tell them that you do not think that they are old enough to engage in this sort of activities. But if they are going to continue this type of activity they need to use protection so that way you dont become a grandparent before you are ready and they dont become a parent before they are ready. All I can say is good luck and dont drive your child away by freaking out.

Answer 4

You say something immediately, or do want this behavior of a teenager in your house? I would tell the partner to leave,talk to your child,which is what they are, and lay down the law. Remind them how unsafe sex is when unprotected, and that pregnancy is always a possibility even while using protection. You shouldn't say they can't see that person anymore because it will cause that child to seek out that person even more. Tell your child about how important it is to wait to engage in sex, but since it already happened it's bound to happen again, so arm your child with knowledge, and hopefully this child will listen and take your advice.

Answer 5

You should probably wait until they or done, then confront them (both of them) with a large amount of printed information from www.coolnurse.com, which is a site designed for teens who are embarrased to go to their parents with sex questions. Include pages on condoms, consequences, STD's, HIV/AIDS, when and how to do it, so they don't get confused, oral sex, anal sex, self-explortion, masturbation, dildos, etc. Make them study the pages. Then use the information to make a test, or search for a test online, about asking them whether or not they are old enough and responsible enough to have sexual intercourse. Give them the test, and PRESTO! you have yourself responsible teens. Remember, you cannot stop them from engaging in this type of behavior, but you can make sure that they are well protected, and that they have an enjoyable experience. Also, make sure to fully embarass them by pulling out dildos, vibrators, condoms, etc. This may help to ensure that they are more cautious about their activities and that they get to know each other better. You may also want to go over tampons and the menstrual cycle to both of them, further embarrasing them while also educating them.

Answer 6

It depends on your parenting style, if you're authoritarian you probably won't agree with me. But I'd wait until the next day, then bring it up. Ask if they're being safe about it, ask how long they've known their partner, ask if they're going to feel guilty if say the person was a virgin and thought they were in love, and that was the only reason they had sex. Y'know, the consequences. Trying to keep them from having sex won't work. They'll go do it somewhere else. At least they're safe in your home.

Answer 7

Simply put...Fly off the handle and be pretty pissed off. Is it a good thing, no. I mean, I could give you a great answer that involves talking and being understanding and all that crap, but I know that If I ever caught my teen screwing in the basement (or anywhere else, for the matter) I'd be livid.

Answer 8

This happened to me. You don't wait till the partner leaves. You have them get dressed and talk to them both at the same time. Then you drive the partner home and tell their parents what happened, to be sure that they know.

Answer 9

Is this a coitus interuptus sort of situation? Yuh know mid plunge!
First I'll make alot of noise, clear my throat, sing something, anything to make them jump!
And secretly laugh while they scramble for clothes, put on a stern expression and ask embarassing qeustions like if they were using protection, and if they thought about pregnancy and the like.
Then leave them while I go in a nearby room and wait for the quilty parties to go home or to bed.
Then run upstairs and tell hubby all about it!

Answer 10

As a mom, I pray that will never happen...but I don't think I would wait, I would let them get dressed and be presentable but I would talk to the both of them, honestly and openly about the situation. You can't ignore the situation if you want to see it not happen anymore. You have to address it and why address it with only your child when it takes two is my thought? You definitely don't want to embarrass your child but you do want to be proactive so I would find a way to be able to talk to the both of them. Prayers =)