I have had 3 miscarriages in 3 years from my boyfriend of 3 years and i also have 3 children from my ex-husband. These pregnancys were healthy and i had no problems. Well i was just recently was seen by a gynocologist and without checking me and going by my pregnancy history and the way my miscarriages happened, he told me that my boyfriend and i need to get blood tested because it might be chromosonial and we may not be able to have children together. I had a pap smear in may in the same clinic by a different doctor and he told me that my cervix was open and said he couldn't say for sure but this may be the cause for the miscarriages. The gynocologist made this evaluation on just going by my medical history and didn't bother to check my cervix when i brought it to his attention. My boyfriend and I want to have a child together and took this very hard especially after 3 miscarriages to learn that it may not be possible for us to have children.
2006-08-15 07:10:17 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Are you sure you want 4 children?? That's a lot of kids to handle!! Anyways, yes, most definitely get a 2nd opinion. Go to a different clinic, but if your cervix is open, you are going to have a heck of a hard time carrying a baby to full term. It may be downright impossible. Below I have included information regarding an incompetent cervix, which sounds like what you've described. If you take certain precautions, you might be able to do it, but it will be tough. Talk to your doctor about it.
Regarding the chromosomal abnormalities, they usually only find a problem in 4% of the couples they test. I've included a link with information on that too.
Good luck to the both of you. And to the person who said get married first, that man will be a real father whether or not you have a ring on your finger! You get married when you are emotionally and financially ready, just like having a baby.
2006-08-15 07:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get checked for STDs to see if the boyfriend gave you something. It's weird for that to happen after so many healthy pregs. But, yes, always get a second opinion! Sometimes a third.
You really should get married to show your children how real respect operates.
2006-08-15 14:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First get married so that your child will have a real father. Then get another opinion. How old are your children from your marriage. If any of them are under 18, they still need your full attention.
2006-08-15 14:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Then go to another doctor.
2006-08-15 14:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by Goodbye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋