never want to have sex with him . would you leave him?
2006-08-15 07:08:01 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not at all. I'd leave him if he was talking 'sex' with a girl on the internet. I won't say that guys have the right to look at porn, but I think guys need a certain amount of private time every once in a while. If it's affecting your love life, if he's masturbating online 'instead' of having sex with you, then it's a problem. I don't see the problem in a guy I'm with checking out magazines or online porn from time to time. Just so long as it wasn't consuming him like it does some pepole and it didn't affect our personal love life.
2006-08-15 07:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well do you or don't you? A lot of guys look at porn just because they like it, some do it out of desperation because their own love life is stale or non-existent, and some become addicted and isolate themselves from their mates. It is something you need to talk about and find out why he's doing it. Don't take it personally IF the rest of your relationship is ok, but if something is lacking between you, find out why he's substituting porn. Is it because his needs aren't getting met (sometimes they don't tell you, think you should magically know) or is he actually withdrawing from you? Don't leave just because of the porn, but find out why he feels he needs it, what else might be missing in your relationship, and work on that. I would also recommend counselling if you really don't think anything is wrong with your 'never wanting to have sex with him."
2006-08-15 14:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by newbie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Porn has ruined so many relationships. I have two friends that went through hell with it on both sides of the spectrum. Men are visual and have always appreciated looking at women yet the porn that we have out there today is damaging and perverted. Instead of hating him...hate the sin. Let him know that you are willing to do whatever it takes to help him with sexual addiction problems if that is the case. If it is something that honestly stems from the fact that you have a low sex drive...try to do something about it. Talk with your doctor. Telling your husband what turns you on too might help. Sounds like more communication and deeper discussion with eachother on an intimate level are due too.
2006-08-15 14:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by peacemaker 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart I just had the same thing happen a month ago.
I told him that it really upset me and I don't want to catch him doing it again. He was extreemly embarrased for getting caught. I teased him for a week calling him "MB" (Masterbater boy) but that just pissed him off, we were both angry at one anouther.
I wasnt giving it to him, so he was looking else where. Luckily it was only at internet porn, but it easily could have been some ho he met at the bar.
We talked about it I promised to give it up at least twice a week or more and he wont look at porn anymore.
If I do catch him again though.. I will be kicking his *** to the curb!
2006-08-15 14:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by Steph 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not leave him without first seeing what he's learn on the porn site. I would tell him you will have to do what you watch. Give him another chance. Sex is part of marriage so get to it.
2006-08-15 14:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that all..? Really, there are so many other men doing worse things to their wives and you want to leave your husband because he watches porn on the computer....? Stop giving him such a hard time, at least he doesn't cheat on you.
2006-08-18 17:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! I never understood why women are upset about porn.
My husband looks at it, I don't mind. In fact, I look at it too.
Looking at porn & masturbating is far better than cheating if you two have different sex drives. My husband would like it every day. I only want it twice a week so.. he gets porn and that's fine with me.
2006-08-15 14:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by spike_is_my_evil_vampire 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give it a rest, lady. Do HIM a favor and leave him. This one takes the cake...jealous over a computer, yet you do NOT want to have sex with him. Hmmmmmm. You have a screw loose somewhere.
2006-08-15 14:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are going to look regardless if we have sex with them or not. If your not giving him any what do you expect him to do. You can't complain too much if you don't have sex with him. Be glad he is only looking on the computer and not out cheating with a woman. Looking is normal.
2006-08-15 14:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kelli 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in your spot. Don't sweat it. Porn is porn. I used to get really upset about it and in fact almost left my husband over it. I now realize that if i am secure in myself then I don't have to worry about it. Now if it crosses that line from inpersonal to personal you have other choices to make. Good luck hun.
2006-08-15 14:43:36 · answer #10 · answered by roadtoolong06 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋