I would think that if someone in a realtionship is no longer feeling the other person, instead of cheating on them you should end the realtionship for both peoples' sake. No point in staying in a realationship that's not working, right ???
What's all this NONSENSE about getting revenge and messing w/ his life and breaking his stuff, etc... What's that all about ???
2006-08-15 07:00:59 · 9 answers · asked by Ain't Not Cool 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being a guy, it may seem strange to get this answer from me, but base don experience and heart to heart prior conversations, here it goes....
The majority of women believe that they are the prime factor of a relationship. That is to say, if you want sex, you have to earn it. The time you spend with them is absolute and not to be shared. Not all, but the large majority of women are given the 'princess' position started by their father and perpetuated by media, toys, etc that they are to be thought of in high regard ... thus Sweet-16's are big and what do boys get? So we've established that dating, relationships, life ... in the minds of women ... are supposed to revolve around them.
Add the fact that they have the ability to give birth and be a quote-unquote "mother" ... then they really think they are special because "without them how would they populate the Earth."
So ... I say, without Men how would they do it also...but thats another story.
The bottom line is, with all the propaganda putting women on pedestals ... and we, men, also doing the same early in the relationship (hence the words 'early in the relationship because it's at that time we work the hardest to get the pootang) ... when it's over and we leave, the average woman clearly has that, "How dare you leave me. I'm the sh*t and it don't stink either. After all that sex I gave you, how dare you leave. After all those damn football games I suffered to watch, how dare you" ... and then they chat it up with their girlfriends, sisters, etc who give them third-person advice on how to deal with it ...
and next thing you know, your car is burning or your stuff is on the sidewalk.
And the topper of it all is if you found someone else (I wouldn't say better because that's relative) ... if you 'dare' to find another piece of **** and leave the original woman, it's a greater offense and you will be likely in for revenge tactics because she's hurting.
Always remember a woman or a man who is in love will act out if hurt. Men are worse on this topic... at least women will just break your stuff. men have been known to kill.
The math equation is simple, though. The better the pootang, and if she is a head turner, the higher the love quoitant from the man. Liek buying a brand new corvette. Great engine. Great curves. She's a keeper.
For women, the better the security, the bigger the love. And security means strength, trust, money, all wrapped up.
If either party looks to loose what they love, they act out.
My two points.
2006-08-15 07:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by Corey B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This applies to both males and females. It's not only a woman thing. Depends on the person.
Generally when a person comes to that stage of being violent or revengeful, it's usually because of cheating and being lied to over and over again and hurt.
Something bad usually triggers it but there are a minority that I account for who are just plain angry when hurt. Either way it's their choice with what they want to do after it all, but I agree they should not take it out on the ex. Just a waste of time but in all fairness you can't expect a person to be happy if they were cheated upon because obviously they were in a relationship with a person who they had feelings for.
It's always a BAD thing when you're in a relationship and there's a NON MUTUAL break up or divorce etc. There's no good that will come out for the other party who is at loss after investing so much time and feelings into something they wanted to grow and maintain. Let's put it in a male analogy: Making you believe you get a free ticket to a sold out football game with your favourite team playing and then when the day draws near, having those tickets ripped infront of your face.
It only hurts when it's not mutual but there is nothing they can do but accept it and move on. More fish in the ocean.
2006-08-15 07:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. When I broke up with my boyfriend a few months back, I was heartbroken. Even though we had grown apart and it was for the best, it still hurt. I knew I was going to miss the connection that we had and that things wouldn't be the same. For me, the change is what hurt. But I could never do anything like try to get revenge on him or anything. I respect him for speaking up now and saying what needed to be said before we invested anymore time, effort or money in it.
If the relationship ended poorly *like if he cheated on you or did something horrible* then I could understand being a little bitter or upset. but going out of your way to be a crazy ***** and ruin his life isn't right. those women need help.
2006-08-15 07:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by Alecto 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how you did the announcement that you wanted to leave. It sounds a lot immaturity. I would rather you divorce before cheating. Because when you have cheating spouse it really hurts. But she should not seek revenge on because it's still not going to make you want her back and in the end it will no really make her feel better either. She is hurting but not doing it in a productive way.
2006-08-15 07:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably just hurt pride. But i always say that if you aren't ahppy with me then I would prefer to be left rather than be cheated on because that hurts way worse. Some women are just petty though.
2006-08-15 07:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you about leaving things alone and just letting go.
BUT................on the other hand..................
if you are married and someone messes with your man, it's just an instinct to go after the woman he was messing around with. For no reason, really, just to let people know that they can't mess with you.
And sometimes, too, some people go off when they are mad.....not even knowing what they're doing.
2006-08-15 07:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel to bad. there are more men who does crazy and crazier things when their mates ask for a divorce or separation. its a worse scenario when this happens cuz male pride, machismo and egos are crushed. and that's everything to a man.
2006-08-15 07:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by babytalk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel like you're losing everything in life. Hasen't anyone ever broken your heart?? Maybe you deserve to see how it feels.
2006-08-15 09:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by RJLightning 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People are immature!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-15 07:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋