Society has labled homosexuals as "turning gay". Gays think they are "born that way" but still no proof that DNA has anything to do with it. I am gay myself and feel that at some point in my past I made the decison to play and discover and can actually say I turned gay and wasn't born this way because I understand the choices I've made in my life and feel like I had options in the pursuit of a heterosexual role. What do you think?
2006-08-15 06:57:24 · 21 answers · asked by J.C. 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think you made the choice to acknowledge and accept how you are. A straight man does not have gay urges.
2006-08-15 07:13:22 · answer #1 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you were able to consciously choose, and felt attraction for either sex, that would make you bisexual - why do you refer to yourself as gay? If you could have chosen a heterosexual partner and been perfectly content you certainly aren't gay. Those who are truly gay never had a choice, just as those who are truly straight never had a choice to make either. It just is what it is, and what it was for you was a choice, or so you say. That you chose the same sex now makes you gay? How do you work out that equation, I'm curious. I've only read tall tales like this from straight posers trying to prove something. If I'm wrong, please disregard my comments, if I'm right stop trying to trap people disingenuously will you? People really aren't that stupid and you really aren't that clever.
2006-08-15 15:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's a choice. Personally, I'm straight, but I can see that if I was forced to be with a man, it'd be the same as a gay person being forced to be with a woman, and I can see that you don't just choose, even though, you may actually accept your sexuality, I don't think there was ever a point in my life where I said "hmm, now i've got to decide, do I like boys or girls"
2006-08-15 15:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by dgoodnight3001 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We all have options to pursue the straight life.
If we don't take those options because we're attracted to same sex people, then we're gay.
If we do take those options, but we're still attracted to same sex people, then we're just liars.
I've never met a gay person in my 50 years that didn't say they were born that way. ....and I have known a LOT of gay people in my time.
If you think you chose to be gay, then I must assume you are pretty masochistic. Why on Earth would anyone CHOOSE to be gay and live a life of persecution and bigotry, unless they like that kind of pain.?
It's all about what you're attracted to. You can't choose that.
It just happens.
2006-08-15 15:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by Spencer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of us are born into a straight world. Usually our parents are straight and so are our grandparents, the couple next door, Uncle Fred and Aunt Ethyl, they're all straight. So we learn to BEHAVE in a straight manner whether or not we are straight.
If we are gay, we have to learn through trial and error, and through experiences, what it is to be gay, and behave in a gay way. So you can choose to hide your sexuality and never have gay sex, or a gay relationship, but that doesn't make you straight.
So yes, in a sense, because nature is calling us to do so, we choose to behave in a gay fashion, because that's who we are. We seek out same sex partners because it is natural for us. But if the pressure of family or society scare us enough, we can continue to hide our gayness most of the time, or even all of the time. This does not, however, make us straight. What you are really saying is that you can choose to come out, or you can choose to stay in the closet. Please remember that there are many shades of gray.
2006-08-15 16:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you're certainly the first gay person I've ever heard say "made the decision to turn gay." I think we are all born that way....DNA evidence or not. I feel some are in denial and supress those feelings sometimes until later in their lives.
there was no turning point for me. I didn't realize until 18 that I was, but looking back I was always attracted to females.
there was no turning point, event or influences in my youth that turned me gay....
2006-08-15 14:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its different for everyone....I feel it was in me at a very young age. Quit a few of us don't mature sexually or emotionally until much later. I could choose to pursuit a heterosexual role as well, I just wouldn't be happy and I would never want to hurt a man who deserves to be truly loved...
2006-08-15 14:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by mylife 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was born loving the inside of Jeannie’s bottle. Even my parents, BOTH of them, said they knew I was gay at 3. My Dad said he knew for sure when he discovered that I actually watched the TV show Wonder Woman because I thought she had a fabulous outfit...I really did like her bullet proof bracelets over her boobs.
2006-08-15 14:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by The Tiki God 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, I have known I was "different" ever since I was a very little boy. I have never been attracted to women sexually and never will be. Would not want to be any other way except the way God made me. He knows all about me anyway (Psalm 139). End of story.
2006-08-15 14:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by Trace Element 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
SO the real questio is do Straight people choose to be straight? WHat makes them like the oppisite sex? I beleive if you are attracted to (sexually) a person, whether or not you act on it you are what you are. Translation and example for simple folk : If your a man and you daydream or fantasizwe about sucking Twigs and Berries..YOU ARE GAY! Even if you didnt act on it!
2006-08-15 14:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by david s 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋