I love my fiancé but our relationship has encountered problems. She is pregnant due to failed birth control pills; I’m excited but fearful. She, unaware, has always struggled with being negative (getting upset easily), being fearful, having low self steam, listening, and responsibility. She frequently gets angry and fearful; she’ll assume things to be worse then is. For example, if I miss her phone calls, she’ll assumes I never answer them or if I’m with my friends she’ll think I’m starting to see her less. When she doesn’t listen, her mind wonders when I tell her important things like parenting ideas I’ve read and keeping the baby healthy. She is not eating due to weight concern keeping the baby undernourished. I try to talk to her about my concerns but she only gets angry and refuses to take action. She also doesn’t work and unmotivated to do so. I’m in college for Engineering and falling behind because of my stresses, I'm 21. What should I do?
2006-08-15 06:52:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My fiance doesn't have health insurance and also has not told her family about situation. Were two month preg.
2006-08-15 06:54:05 · update #1
I know in most area there are pregnancy crisis centers that could help with finding medical treatment for your fiance. They are usually government funded. Contact your local department of social services as pregnant women usually qualify for state funded insurance during pregnancy and also for the baby. that is also a way for a social worker to educate your fiance about the importance of nutrition for the fetus. If her family is unaware, how about your family for support - is that a possibility?
2006-08-15 07:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by mlady_in_virginia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the issues she has will only be magnified by her pregnancy making her even more insecure. Just try to be supportive and understanding of her feelings. As for the weight concern, maybe you could sign her up for some baby websites - they will email her healthy diet cues for pregnant women or sign her up for pregnancy magizines - that way the advice is not directly from you which could make her more sensitive being that you are very close to her. Get her some prenatal vitimans also. She can always get state medical insurance through the Department of Human Services or whatever they call it where you live... the same place you apply for food stamps. That's what she'll probably have to do if she doesn't want to work. As for college, sit down with her and let her know how important it is for you to accomplish the educational goals you set forth for yourself to better yourself and your family. You obviously keep her at the top of your list... if she can't do the same for you, maybe you'll need some couples counceling.
2006-08-15 07:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by Goddess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yopu really ar in a mess . . If youcan get either bevwillong ot put he vchild up for adoption or sadly a abortion not pleaseantatall. hard to do also . Buit you are both notready for a family nor do you have a stable relationship I wouldsuggest psychartichelp in a provate pratice for both of you and prbably ending the relationship not aeasy option either but you guys got your selfs oint othis mes so you have ot get your elvs out .
It is best for every one .
and child on the way . If you think lif isbadnow wait till you have a baby that is infull wail at 2 am and you have to get up go ot school and ok !
time ot step up to the plate and make tough decsuio ion that only yopu can do in the end . good luck to ya
2006-08-15 07:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by crps_1964 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you reside with a guy and are pregnant. YOU in actuality "positioned the cart earlier the horse" right here and somewhat there is no longer lots you're able to do. Are you under his coverage? in case you're and you leave he will have each and every top to take you off of his assurance, then what are you going to do? you have a house mutually, which replaced right into a entire incorrect circulate to do earlier getting married. Now if he needs to he can walk faraway from all of it and you'd be left to pay for the domicile and having the toddler and he has his freedom. i ought to not at all comprehend what made women so desperate for a courting that they could positioned their very own futures in jeapoardy like this. It somewhat boggles the strategies. Even you mentioned it, you have been mutually for 6 a million/2 years...why in that 6 a million/2 years have you ever no longer gotten married? If it have been basically the two one in all you it does no longer count number, yet you're pregnant and to hold a new child into such lack of self belief... So enable's say you do leave him...will you be submitting for new child help? Or will welfare be footing the fees? have you ever learnt that IF welfare enters the image they're going to circulate after him for the bills back to the government to enhance your new child? they won't "ask" for it back, they're going to garnish his wages, carry his earnings tax returns and the different earnings he gets. you need to get your head right this moment at quickly. because of the fact in case you do no longer this mess is basically going to get messier.
2016-09-29 07:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by laseter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to go see a dr. Also go to your local public aid office and sign up for a medical card(she can do it) and they will give her free medical benefits, and also the baby once it's born. Go to the doctor with her, and pull the doc aside and let her know whats going on. Maybe they could refer you to someone that can help her with her issues(not trying to sound mean). This could put a big damper on her and the baby. She needs to feed herself, and she needs to cheer up. Or else her baby could have some serious problems when it grows up. My step-sons mother did this and he is developmentally and speech delayed, he is also autistic and it's hard. Good Luck to you and your fiance, try and cheer her up about this, you want a healthy child.
2006-08-15 07:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by lillady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to grow up and be mature adults about this. That baby needs a mother and a father. It needs to be taken care of and be provided with a good life. If you two cant do that. the baby should be given for adoption, and the two of you should be spayed and neutered!
2006-08-15 07:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like to me your both to young for this..
2006-08-15 06:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by 'Cause I'm Blonde 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋