young children?

Question

do you think it is right for a 3 yr old to know that a man has a penis and a women has a fanny. i think this is wrong and that when he goes to nursery the staff will think he is being abused. my son is 3 and he knows that his thingy is called a winkle.

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong with it!

Three is the age where children learn gender.

Answer 2

If my children ever ask me something then I always tell them the truth. I think that for a three year old child to know that a penis is called a penis and a vagina is called a vagina is fine because it's the truth and what they're called. It is never too earlier to teach your children anything that they want to know (verbably obviously not fisically). My two daughters are aged Eight and Six and they have known for years how to make a child, what a period is and what everything is correctly called. I have never be accused or questions to my teaching methods for my children and I myself have also received a certifcert in parenting for a course I did at college a few years ago, so surely it can't be doing any harm to a child.

Answer 3

I taught my children, at a young age, the APPROPRIATE terms for their body parts. A penis is not a winky and a vagina is not a fanny. The preschool will not think anything if your son blurts out 'he has a penis'. Afterall, he does, doesn't he? Why do parents make everything so taboo? Just tell it how it is, and throw some age appropriate definitions in with it. You'll be fine and your son will be fine, too and noone will think he's abused.

Answer 4

It is normal for a 3 year old to know the real name of all his body parts. He should call his winkle a penis. That is what it is.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with pre-schoolers knowing a little basic anatomy, and no one will think they are abused. I had boy and girl twins who shared a room until they were 6, and saw each other naked all the time. At six, they started getting self-conscious, and did not want to undress in front of each other anymore. That's when I figured out where the story of Adam and Eve comes from. We go from innocence to shame when we become self-conscious.

Answer 6

I have b/g twins. Before the age two I would put them in a tub together, they new that they were different. At that time they already knew what their body parts were called (toes, belly button, etc.) so it only seemed natural to teach them that one had a penis and one had a vagina. They are now grown, and know one ever thought they were abused because they knew the difference.

Answer 7

I think it's wrong to teach them words like "Fanny". You need to teach kids proper terms such as penis and vagina or else you'll raise them to be uncomfortable with sexuality. (Even Dr.Phil agrees with me on this one)

No he's not being abused. He's being taught proper terminology. Hence you're not raising an ignorant moron. Your kid needs to know what to call his private parts. I don't know where people get off being so PC.

In Europe they have nude beaches. In the US we are so worried about being PC that we breed psychos. You tell me which is worse.

Answer 8

I think he should be taught the correct terms for body parts and what they are called mostly. He should be taught that they are private parts. If he knows all of this, I do not think anyone will think he is abused, they will think he is being taught properly! He needs to know what his body parts are and that girls are different. Leave the rest til later. Best of Luck

Answer 9

No, it's not wrong.
Times have changed since you or i were little.
The earlier they can figure it out, the better educated they will be, and the less likely for them to get pregnant, or worse, get a disease.
My youngsters know about boys and girls....around the same age as yours, and i don't believe anyone thinks they are being abused, thats just not practical thinking!

Answer 10

You know, I read in the "Parenting" magazine, that it's okay to teach your children the WORDS to what we have, I think it just depends on how you word it and expalin to him. Good luck with everything, and what is a fanny?

Answer 11

I think he should know what his own thing is called but not what the opposite sex's thing is called. Unless he has a sister who is running all over the house naked, then he should have a slight idea that they are different. And if your gonna teach him that stuff use the right terms!