I just found out this week I have been dating a married man... I am pregnant. should I tell his wife. I am done with him. I did not know he was married. but should I tell her...
2006-08-15 06:36:19 · 27 answers · asked by jessi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh honey... I am sorry to hear that. don't call her. send her a letter. that way if she trys to blame you she cant yell and scream at you and get you upset. if you have a pic of you and the guy together... send that to her... be brief and to the point in the letter only give her your first name, how and when you met him. when you started dating. and tell her how you found out about her and when. if he does not know that you know he is married dont tell him. that will give the wife the upper hand. tell her your sorry, and that you will be ending things. to tell her about the baby is up to you. if your going to walk away then dont. does he know about the baby? if not then dont tell her. if yes then again thats up to you. but send her a letter honey...
2006-08-15 09:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by concerned mom 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yoe bet give her a call or if you can get some photos of you to have a freind takeem with a film canmera so you can b esure they ar real and not photshooped . as you wil have te neatives . go ot a one hour lab have say 4 copies made and keep one in alock box thease situations get ugly one fopr your self and one fora trusted friend or family member .
Ifi was near ya I'd take the photos for you my self for a case of my favorite beer an a good meal ect
but do not let him know you have fopund out and as i said before talk ot a lawyer before doing any thing as it can lead to porblesm or even violnce . . the lawter wil send th phoyots and make the call for oyu and it gives you soelegal protection .If you must call on your oen use a pay phone or a disposabable cell so you cannot be treced . mail anything from a differnt town otstae .
best of luck the A hole desrves what is comeing to him
oh realy get alwayr as you ar prenabnt he shpould have to pay child support so wyou will need a lawter to get that and you can also take him to court as he lied to you about his martial status . ., so youcould get achunk of change out of him too. along with child support. yeah te othr suggestion od calling familyservice or what evrr it isin your state and evn the cops incase of a voilenttreaction get aRO ASAP if he owns guns tell the cops .
Soory you are in this mesbut he will come pout the loser in the enmd .
2006-08-15 13:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by crps_1964 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I sure in the h-e double hockey sticks would want you to tell ME if I was THAT unfortunate woman. If you sincerely did not know he was married (LOOK FOR THE SIGNS, GIRLS!!! Did he give you his home phone? Come ON!) then you can very lady like tell her. He's not gonna tell her. Why would he. Be careful, though. There is passion involved and we don't want it to get violent. You need to think of that baby above all and keep your stress level low. It would be much easier for the wife and for your future child support if she found out sooner rather than later. Be careful girl and in the future, know ALL of a man's business before you deem him worthy of sharing your "precious gift," if you catch my drift, Mamma.
Bless you and your unborn baby. Congratulations!
2006-08-15 13:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How long have you been with him????? You should have asked him if he was married. Have you told him that you are pregnant? This matter is between you and him,not his wife. She will find out soon enough,she's married to a cheat. Let him do his own dirty work.
2006-08-15 13:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
be the woman that you would want your daughter to be or your son to have. tell her you was dating him and you just found out that he's married, and that you are pregnant. don't wait for him to tell her because he can say what he wants her to know and that might not be the truth. so get up and go knock on that door and let her know.
2006-08-15 13:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by Shuggah 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I did not even have to read the whole explanation before I decided. YES>>>YES>>>YES>> do tell. Some men are such excuse me but pigs!!! If it were you as the wife wouldn't you like to know?
2006-08-15 14:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell Yes tell her! Don't let that womanizer get away with it! She's gonna find out anyway when he has to pay child support. He needs to pay the piper as much as you do!Please tell her, if it were my husband, I would want to know. She can do what she wants to with the information.
2006-08-15 13:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just go on with you life and stay away from him and her. If in you need to apply for assistance then let his wife find out about it that way. Make sure you get his DOB, DL # and SS# for future needs.
2006-08-15 13:49:39 · answer #8 · answered by florie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should tell her everything. She have to know what kind of man she marry to. Don't feel guilty for ruin their family.
She will thank you for telling her the truth.
2006-08-15 13:51:41 · answer #9 · answered by holeinone 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont worry about telling her when he gets a letter from the courts for child support that will be enough to let her know whats been going on.
2006-08-15 13:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋