I've fallen in love with this guy that is in prison. He didn't kill anybody. He's only in there for grand larceny and breaking and entering. How do I make my parents see that he isn't an awful person?
2006-08-15 06:27:32 · 8 answers · asked by kc_bh25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He did do it to buy drugs Alan.
2006-08-15 06:37:01 · update #1
If it's love, you'll wind up waiting no matter what anyone says and you might be right....Babydoll, I don't know your jailbird, so I can't make any comment about whether or not he'd be worth waiting for, but I can tell you this, with absolute certainty: Loving an inmate is a VERY HARD ROAD....it's about slogging through endless paperwork, it's trying to keep up with rules that seem to change every week, it's waiting for incredibly expensive collect phone calls that might or might not come and when he doesn't call, praying with all your heart that the phones in the day room are just either too busy or broken and that he's not hurt or on lockdown, it's becoming obsessive about checking your mail and the heartsick feeling that comes over you when the letter you want so badly isn't there,it's about getting writers cramp and spending $20 a week on stamps and stationary, it's about dealing with either keeping it secret or dealing with disapproval of the relationship everywhere you turn and mostly it means living in a future you can't be sure of and that really does take a toll.
If I had a choice, I wouldn't do it, but I've loved the guy for over 20 years and I can't quit now...and I'm almost 40, so it's not as if I'm spending my youth dealing with the Dept.of Corrections...think carefully, Sweetie, it is a hard, hard thing to do and no guarantees.
As for your parents, how old are you? If you are still under their roof, you have a certain obligation to respect their opinions and wishes... this might mean not being able to have phone calls, just letters and having to accept them speaking up everytime a letter arrives or you mention him. Only time will do anything to change their minds... if he really is a good guy who screwed up, they'll see that and if he's a predatory jerk, they'll see that, too
2006-08-16 03:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. Those guys in prison latch on to lonely women. Pretend to be in love so that they can use you. Iv'e seen it happen to several of my friends. They are awful users. He said that he is only in for grand larceny and breaking and entering that's bad enough. He is probably lying about his charges. Do yourself a favor and end it now. I'm sorry but I'm with your parents.
2006-08-15 06:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by Dorrie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all if he was not awful he would have never put himself in that situation. Second of all do you realize that now days most good employment places do a criminal history. And those cases could and most likely will count against him. Just from my son's experience he has been held back because of his past which unfortunately we can not erase unless he hires an attorney to file for an expungsion but that is really costly. Plus from what I have heard if you commit a similar crime than your criminal history is accessible again. So basically you wasted you money. Third of all do you think that he will be able to give you what you want out of life - be honest with yourself. House, car, pay bills on time, food in the house every pay check, medical bills, and if you like having nice clothes now will that continue or will you be satisfied with Wal-Mart. Be true to yourself, please you not other people.
2006-08-15 06:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by florie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a lot of people are telling you not to fall in love or don't waste your time with this guy that's in prison, but i'm telling you to give it time....
everyone makes mistakes, he got caught making his and he had to pay the price. doesn't mean that he's a bad person. everything happens for a reason. if he didn't go to prison, then he would probably be dead now, by way of gunshot, beat down, or whatever the streets could have done to him. but by him being locked up, he's growing and maturing in prison. so my advice to you is to stay by his side so that he knows AT LEAST one person out there is waiting for him and counting on him to be the good man he's suppose to be. i wish you the best with it all!
2006-08-15 06:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by Shuggah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Don't ruin your life with a convict, you will only get burned.
Why did he break into a place? I'm sure he was not stealing from the rich and giving to the poor. Drugs would be my first guess.
2006-08-15 06:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by Alan J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont be in love with him. If he's in prison say away from the guy and dont talk with him. Nothing good comes from stuff like that. NOTHING! watch your back. Just tireing to help.
2006-08-15 06:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get some self esteem and find a guy that doesn't live with dudes 24/7.
2006-08-15 06:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may be a potential stalker with "Breaking and entering" be careful please...
2006-08-15 06:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by Toya J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋