I have recently found out that my boyfriend has been texting and calling his old friend Tiffany while at work when he doesn't even call me or text me at all because he claims about us getting charged on our cell phones. Then i snooped around and found out they were both talking about me behind my back, and i also found out that he had asked her to take a picture of herself and send it to him on his phone, and he has it saved on there. I havn't confronted him about it, but i'm very suspicious. I also have asked him not to call her while at work or text her while at work because it hurts my feelings and he told me he wouldn't, and that he would talk to her in front of me instead of hiding it, but he's been lying about that. Also i recently found KY Jelly opened and used at least once in his car and we havn't had sex in a while since i'm in the 9th month of my pregnancy and i have ten days before i give birth. I'm very confused and i need advice, please help.
2006-08-15 06:26:47 · 27 answers · asked by fire_fly_006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
confront him and find out for sure.
sorry to hear.... good luck.
2006-08-15 06:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by jderty12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a heart to heart talk with him. He may be angry that you snooped around but it is better to get things out in the open. From the information that you shared, I would really reconsider being with him because he not only lied to you and broke the trust in the relationship, he has also violated your relationship. He may think it is not cheating but it is it is called emotional infidelity. He is allowing someone else into your relationship whereas it is suppose to be only about you two. He is not over his ex and he has a lot of nerve telling anyone especially his ex any of your business. If he doesn't tell you the truth, then I would ask the girl and tell him he is giving you no other choice. I am so sorry that you have to go through this stress and aggravation in your condition and tell him that he should consider the health of your baby because when you are stressed or depressed, your baby feels all those things and it can jeopardize the baby's health. Take care and if you can't take it anymore and he is unwilling to compromise with you, then do what is right for you and the baby and leave.
2006-08-15 06:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all lets get something straight if you have warned him once about not talking to her and then you later find KY jelly in your car then apparently he's not listening. Also let me ask you something why would you stay with a man that is going to treat you like you are nobody especially when you are pregnant and that's his kid in your stomach? What you need to do is tell him that you found the jelly in his car and then when he tries to explain to you how it was old or some stupid excuse then tell him that you warned him the first time and now you took it too far and that you won't stay with him anymore cause you can't stand him anymore and that after you have the baby you will leave him. From there see how he reacts with you the next day and as it gets towards having the baby. If he stays the same then he is a waste of time if he changes and is showing that he cares then he maybe ready to make a commitment to still be with you but be smart and be wise cause he maybe just showing you one face now cause of the kid but later he could change.
2006-08-15 06:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by Meriam W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought about that 9 months ago, sweetie!!! Forget it......that is what happens when you start having sex and not being married. You may as well get used to it because this guy ain't gonna be around. Stop trying to control his behavior.....you all sound immature. He is not into you or the baby so you had better make plans for life on your own with the baby. Him sending the text messages to a girl is the very least of your worries.......DUH!!! You played the game.....now you will pay the price. Hope others' reading this will learn from your really bad , bad mistake!
2006-08-15 06:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear that, If you are really suspicious about this then talk to him (gently) about it, he may not be finding the true love or may not be sexualy satisfied by you. You can both sit down and sort this out. But I really dont think you should get worried or tensed to much if you are going to give birth as this might be too much pressure for you.
I'm sure its all a big misunderstanding. Talk to him, and if there is something wrong then you should both think about your future child. The child will need both mother and father.
Hope everything goes well for you.
Best of Luck.
:)
2006-08-15 06:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first u need to stop worrying about this so much till your baby is born, only alittle ways to go u shouldnt be working urself up so much, he's an azz for putting u through this kind of stress during ur pregnancy even if it is platonic...I say wait till u have the baby to deal with this one, ur hormones are flying high and u could be possibly making the situation out to be worse then what it is...because your hormones are going nuts.. so just wait till after the baby is here to investigate further..
2006-08-15 06:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fiancee my azz..girl i would throw that ring right back in his face, i really dont understand why women are so stupid when it comes to their men, if he treats you like this now and you're not married what makes you think he'll get beter after marriage...when two people are about to get hitched...there should be NO DRAMA...u shouldn't even have ot be worrying about girls and ex-es at this point the only thing u should be worry about is where to have your honeymoon and since this is not the case hes not worth getting married to...u love him yea blahb labh boo hoo....get over it...if you dont love and respect you self enough to know you're suppose to be the centre of his world and be treated better than that then i guess you're that stupid and yall should get married.....all the best hope you open your eyes....
thats all i have to add
2006-08-15 06:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by ~BaByPrInc3zZ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a man and Tiffany gave him an opportunity. He probably has been messing around with her but it has nothing to do with you at all. Just a choice that he made and many men often do. You don't have to end the relationship over it if you find out he has been unfaithful.
2006-08-15 06:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think cheating includes sneaking behind someone's back and lying. If he hasn't slept with her yet, it sounds like he's thinking about it. To me, that's reason enough to leave his sorry butt. You're pregnant about to give birth to his baby, and he can't even be truthful or faithful. That's not healthy for you or your child to be in a situation like this. You are a human being with feelings, and if he cannot treat you like you deserve to be treated, then you're better off on your own. I wish you all the best, and I hope you do what's best for you and your baby.
2006-08-15 06:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by lexicam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be hurt. He makes it hard on you to trust him again. Did you confront him about the ky? You never know,he might have a reason about it. Let him know that you are wise to him. You could let him know how much he would be paying in child/spousal support...... Good Luck
2006-08-15 06:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a tough situation there! especially with a new baby coming. You really need to talk with him & find out whats going on. By the sounds of what you've written, it dose'nt sound so good. But dont let him make a fool of you. Good luck with your problem & the best of luck with your new baby to come.
2006-08-15 06:46:10 · answer #11 · answered by roags 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋