i am a 37 yrs single parent , i have a 9 yrs old angel with me ,i call him my angel as i know God has sent him to me to renew my faith i realise that God is truth and he is the living god, ok my wife left us in 2001 and went to her parents and never returned back as we has differences the main one was about my son she was not at all prepared to become a parent and every now and then would neglect him which i couldn't tolerate , she was offended and till now i have provided him everything as far as i can and never allowed him to feel deprived but from the past 3 yrs we know a spinster who is a lecturer in english, and a sunday school teacher in our church, who was very much interested in my son and later he in her, i initially hesitated but we became close friends when asked indirectly she said she would not mind marrying a divorcee but when asked about me she has refused saying i have not seen u in that view at all but still in my good friend so i am confused can any one help ?
2006-08-15 06:23:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
one sggestion,be free,sit together,for atleat few few sittings,openly discuss the issue,n then access wher she stands,so that u r struggle for the little angel,is not defeated.
2006-08-15 14:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by dulla99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is willing to keep things on a friendly basis only. I don't think she wants to marry you.
You could try actually dating her (leave you son with a baby sitter) and see how things go. Maybe she really doesn't know you well enough to think about marrying you yet.
I can tell you that friendship is not enough to base a marriage on. You need love and passion. (I know from experience)
This woman is wise enough to realize that she is not in love with you now, but if you romance her she may come around. Just be very sure that you feel the same way about her.
2006-08-15 06:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I am a true christian and I believe that if god meant for you and her to be together you all would be. No matter what she says if god is in this relationship it will work out. If not then god will send you the right one for you in your life that will accept you as you are no matter what problems you had to face in your past.. Just believe and wait on him. He will send that right woman that will love you and your child. If its her he will change her heart. If its not he will take her away and put the right one in her place.
2006-08-15 06:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by Nita C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you asked her to marry you, and she said no. she wants to be your FRIEND. you are 37 years old. MOVE ON. there are lots of women out ther who would date you. AND they would love the fact that you take care of your child. try dating a woman of faith, you might be amazed!
2006-08-15 06:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by jettrn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That just means that she has not thought of you in that way of a husband. You would have to ask her to dinner and see if you can get her to change her mind about you. Maybe she just has never thought about it.
2006-08-15 06:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have not learnt from your 1st marriage. Please do not spoil your relationship with your kid by getting third person and tell him or her that this is his mother just because u want someone.
2006-08-15 06:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by sanson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋