it's hard to make new friends as everyone else my age is coupled up and/or has kids. i work full-time so only have a couple of hours in the evenings.
2006-08-15 06:22:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Be happy with the simple things in life - like a good meal, a pretty sunset, a joke, a song on the radio...
Don't think a happy life has to be all about having a partner
2006-08-15 06:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is contentment? Are married couples content? Do yo think people in love are content? 99% of people aren't content and having a partner is unconnected to it.
People go around looking for things that they think will be bring them happiness. Objects, things, tat, crap. Constantly buying, watching and using, desperately trying to distract themselves from the the realisation that they are not doing what they wish in life.
Contentment is when you let go of all want and stop clinging to destractions. Being with someone or not really has nothing at all to do with it, it is just another distraction. Finding someone is something you may want to do and if so you should but don't think it will give you any answers to the contentment question.
2006-08-18 13:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't define contentment as something which can only be found through having a partner, it is possible to be happy without one. However, if you are truly lonely why not try an evening class in something which really interests you. That will enable you to widen your circle of friends who share an interest in common without fixating on seeking a partner. Remember what is meant to be won't pass you by and if there is a partner waiting in the wings somewhere you will meet him or her. Enjoy life!
2006-08-15 12:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by CAROL S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to do a little self discovery so you can enjoy time to yourself. Make a list of the things you most enjoy doing, and do them! Take a cooking class, or an art class, you will definitely meet people that way. Try to stay as active as you can, and without even trying, you will be able to make some new friends.
But remember, you can only achieve ultimate happiness by being happy with who YOU are, not by having loads of friends... they tend to come and go, but you'll be around, so do what's good for YOU!
2006-08-15 06:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can be happy w/out being content. Just enjoy solitude for now---it doesn't mean you have made a decision re. your marital status. Read good books, volunteer, exercise, take up a hobby, join a singles group--where hopefully the goal is to go on adventures, develop friendships, and possibly do some good for your community. i was w/out a partner for 9 yrs after grad school---had a great life!
2006-08-15 07:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by hopscothchbunnies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really understand how you feel and what you are going thru, but contentment come from within not from without, if I am sure of anything you will will find a mate no matter how little time you have to devote to finding one. But you must show and have patience and that will help you win the day. I am also talking from experience, I am not offering you guess work. I am sharing facts with you............ It will happen for you sooner than you my know....
2006-08-15 06:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep praying to God thanking him for ur sanity, I to am a loner. but i have a seven month old baby boy that helps keep me sane. don't worry about what others r doing, keep do what makes u happy. invest in a small pet to keep u company on those lonely nights. like me i keep praying, doing the right thing, and try to llive a guilt free life. i wasn't always this content, if u know what i mean. i've grown up alot, live life own life terms, keep letting go and letting God, an all will be well for u. if u need some one to talk to email me at tasmeon@yahoo.com anytime no strings attached
2006-08-15 06:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by Henderson B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a club, there are all sorts of things you can do without a partner. You don't need one to achieve contentment.
2006-08-15 06:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by A G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it depends what "contentment" means for you. One man's short-term good time, is another's contentment! A salsa class gives me a rush, at a class I spend time learning, but my contentment comes from supportive & loving family and friends and when alone, being able to enjoy my own company.
2006-08-15 06:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by lucylastic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By finding things you enjoy doing to occupy your time, if you go to classes or where ppl in general go you may just make some friends as well. try your local college for courses, crafts, languages etc or some voluntary work, there are organisations that will welcome new members. Try the chat rooms, dating sites etc
2006-08-18 09:48:49 · answer #10 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋