Recently I broke up with my ex because I was felt I was second in his life to everything else. We tried to get back together and it was excellent. The problem was that he was moving into a new home, dealing with two business, his ex and a new relationship with myself.
I ran into him about two weeks ago. We cried and he even wiped the tears from my face. We hug four times and each hug lasted more than 5 minutes. Just when I thought I had him out of my system; he calls me last night. We spoke for about 30 minutes until his cell battery went out.
He ask me to call him and indicated that what happen was just on a misunderstanding and that he wasn't trying to blow me off. I'm not sure now if he wants to be friends or want more. It's so hard and hurts so painfully to be around him and not be able touch him. I'm crying at my desk as I write this. I just thought I had bury the emotions erected from our union. Help what should I do?
2006-08-15 06:21:14 · 9 answers · asked by Swordfish 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Honey, you need to give him time because obviously he has a lot of stuff to deal with at this point. Apparently, you really care for him, so be patient, understanding, and supportive. Let him know that you are there for him and that when he needs to talk, you'll be willing to hear him out. I would wait and just remind him that I have his back, but don't pressure him into making decisions on the spot--he has a lot going on.
Be positive and think that once he has dealt with everything, that he will be back and give you the attention you need. Don't lose hope in him getting back with you because remember, everything happens at its own time. Good luck, babe.
2006-08-15 06:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're hurting so much. If you guys talk again I think you should lay it all on the line and tell him EXACTLY how you felt then and how you feel now. What have you got to loose, hun? If you're not together as a couple right now you can't have another break up. It will either bring you back together or it will begin a closure process for you. I hope things work for you both.
2006-08-15 13:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Bear Nibble! When I posted the question on How to handle a roommate who does his thing everytime he chanced me takin a shower naked, majority of those who answered my question thought I'm a "Gay" hater or playing "Catch Me If You Can" because they probably forgot that what I've asked them was real although there are also some who have their honest to goodness opinion.
Try to loosen up a bit and meet new friends to chanel your depression. Who knows you'll meet somebody who is better than your Ex. You're being tormented now because you used to be so emotionally attached to him.
2006-08-15 13:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bully Charmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought I was too and gave it another try, it was never like it was when we first had met. We are still friends and talk to eachother when we see eachother. You can give it another try and if it doesn't work out the second time at least you can tell yourself you tried. Good Luck
2006-08-15 18:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sweety my heart goes out to you.
i don't know if this will help but do not push any issue with him. just take one day at a time. maybe give yourself time to think and get your thoughts together. he seems as if he really does like you and possibly wants to pursue the relationship. it is really hard on the both of you with all of the goings on around you, everything appears that it is so rushed and chaotic. but please do not give up on this relationship if you truly in your heart want to be with him. i understand that your heart aches and you want to be with him. time will tell and it does heal as well. i will pray for the both of you and that you will find true happiness.
2006-08-15 13:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think that it would be very easy to call him and ask HIM if he were interested in continuing a relationship...why are you asking here? No one here is psychic. Your asking here is very high school, not grown up. Take responsibility for your own life, call him, ask him, if he say "no," you have lost nothing and you will get over it. IF he says "yes," all this pain and stuff you are going through is pointless and just plain dumb. What in the world are you doing?
2006-08-15 13:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember the reasons why you broke up with him in the first place. And move on!
This guy sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. If you felt second in his life before, you will again.
2006-08-15 13:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still have strong enough feelings for each other why not try it again. I want to wish you the best of luck.
2006-08-15 18:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish I was an expert on love and relationships but I'm not.
2006-08-15 13:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by Sick Puppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋