divorce or not?

Question

I want to get a divorce or at least that is what i think I want. I need more in my life. I have asked for marriage counseling or something but he refuses. What should I do?

Answer 1

Honey why dont u take a break for sometime .stay by yourself for sometime.then he will ask u back.Its quite normal to feel like that as you are feeling.get a makeover change your wardrobe and then u will see the difference.

Answer 2

I would say you don't have to get divorced right away. This situation actually depends on you, do you think this relationship is worth fixing? In your heart of hearts? Okay, so if you think so but he's too stubborn (or caveman) to take the necessary steps then you should separate (move out call his bluff), just remember though you all are still "Married"! Trust me this will bring a lot of clarity, and if he still refuses to go to counseling or take some preventive measures to fix whatever the issues are then you can file for a divorce. I personally, feel that divorce is the absolute last resort unless cheating or server drug abuse, and lastly crime has occurred! Good Luck I hope my advice put things in perspective a bit!

Answer 3

You have to decide what it is specifically you don't like about the relationship. Once you know what it is, tell him. If nothing changes and he refuses counselling, then divorce is the way to go. That is of course assuming you feel that the problem is worthy of divorce. You probably do otherwise you wouldn't be asking this.

Answer 4

Counseling is to resolve marriage and relationship issues, not to get you more out of life. Sounds like divorce to me.

Answer 5

First of all find out the real reason that he doesnt want to go to counseling and go from there you know your situation alot better than we do and you know if its worth saving or not but one thing you have to remember is that you cant do it all by yourself he has to be willing to do his part and with that being said if he isnt willing for some reason then maybe DIVORCE is the right answer.

Answer 6

Go to individual marriage counseling to determine if you really want out of the marriage and if you do you can make an informed decision that you are confident is right for you.

Answer 7

How long have you been together? Do you have any kids/house/pets that you would argue over? These are important questions to ask yourself if you're thinking about this. Why did he refuse marriage counseling?

Answer 8

If he admits there are problems and still refuses to seek counseling then you really have no choice but to seperate. I would not jump right into a divorce but I would ask him to move out, or you move out.

Answer 9

You need to take some serious looking into your life. Do you think a divorce will give you more of what you're looking for? Do you love your spouse? Life is what you make it, find out what would make you happy and see if you can't include your spouse in that. Being single is no picnic and probably will give you less in your life for sometime.

Answer 10

people divorce for the stupidest reasons. if he dosent beat you or cheat on you then work it out! marriage isnt always going to be wonderful or perfect it takes work. somedays you will be sooo in love and others he makes you sick. thats all part of it. work it out sweetheart. if he wont go to counseling with you then you go without him, take the lead and show him how its supposed to be. dont just give up

Answer 11

YOU KNOW MARRIAGE ISN'T EASY.YOU'RE TWO INDIVIDUALS TRYING TO CO- EXIST TOGETHER.AND AT TIMES THAT CAN BE CHALLENGING.IT DOESN'T MEAN THROW IN THE TOWEL.I THINK YOU SHOULD GO TO COUNSELING ALONE,SORT SOME THINGS OUT ABOUT YOURSELF MAKE SURE YOUR MIND ISN'T BEING CLOUDED WITH WHAT I CALL A BUNCH OF NOISE(THAT EVERYONE ELSE'S OPINIONS) YOU DEFINITELY WANT CLARITY IN MAKING A DECISION LIKE THAT.HOPEFULLY DURING THIS PROCESS YOU'LL LEARN HOW DEAL WITH YOUR FRUSTRATIONS AND LEARN OTHER WAYS TO GET WHAT YOU NEED FROM HIM AND THIS MARRIAGE.