Still trying?

Question

We are still trying to get preganat and no luck. This really sucks and is upsetting. Why can all these teen girls end up preganat and some one like me who is 26 with a husband who is 30 in less then a month can not. It is unfair. I am able to give a child a good home and a good life with loving and educated parents. We have good jobs and a nice house. Why is it so unfair?

No smart *** remarks.

this is very hard for both me and my husband because we lost our first baby (a littls girl) at 5 weeks old. She was very ill and had to have open heart surgey. She did not make it out of the recovery room and we had to make the decison to take her off the life support or let her suffer until the next day when she would have passed anyway. We took hre off the life suppot and she passed away in my arms.

Answer 1

I cannot answer why you are not conceiving, but I can tell you how much I sympathize with you. My husband and I had 5 miscarriages after our first son (took over 2 years to conceive). We also agonized every time we heard of another spoiled teen couple throwing away or murdering their child while we had this stable and financially secure home to give a child. After years of fertility medicine and 30,000 dollars spent with no live child, we gave up. Eight months ago, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl after 11 years. There was no medical explanation on how I even held on to the pregnancy, but she is here now. We can only speculate that she had some purpose in this world and we were the ones picked to deliver and raise her. I hope this turns out to be the case with you guys and that somewhere, there is a little boy or girl waiting to be born to you. I am assuming that you are involved with a good infertility specialist, but if you are not, please consider this. My thoughts and prayers are with you!!!!!!

Answer 2

Firstly, I want to say how sorry I am for your loss. I too was in your situation of trying to get pregnant. Yes it is upsetting and sucks that teens seem to end up pregnant so easily. I would say terrible things to my husband about it, and I even had a hard time being happy for friends that ended up pregnant seemed everyone around us were getting pregnant at the drop of a hat, but not us. This is normal...you will eventually let it go.

I also hated to hear everyone tell me to just relax, don't stress, don't worry, don't think about it...easy for them to say when it's not them in this situation.

Take a deep breath and try and focus your attention else where. While we were trying I researched adopting through our local Children's Aid, private adoption, international adoption etc. I wanted the information just in case.

We ended up going to a fertility clinic, and after many tests on my husband and me it was determined that my husbands swimmers only had a 5% survival rate after 24 hrs., they like to see 8%. Our option was Artifical Insemination, they would try this three time and then our next option if we choose it was In-vetro. Well to make a long story short, we conceived after our first AI session and we are blessed with a one year old. The cost about $2,000 Cdn. but we don't ever think about the cost as it was money well spent.

Please try to stay positive, seek other options (speak to your dr., speak to an Obgyn, go to a fertility clinic etc.). I'm sure when the time is right you'll become the mom you've always wanted to be.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

Sorry to hear about your loss, but God knows why things happen. The younger you are the more fertile you are, as you age your eggs age too so, our chances of getting pregnant every year decrease because of our age. I am sure that if you get the pressure out of your head you will be just fine, maybe you are trying to hard and you are stressing out over it, let nature do its own thing, whenever God thinks it's time for you to have a baby again, it will just happen. Do not get discouraged, my husband and I are both 29 getting very close to 30's and we are expecting our first little treasure so, you are still young, it will be ok. God bless.

Answer 4

It does take time, Do you know that there is only a %25 percent chance each month that you can get pregnant (and that is under the best circumstances) I know personally that being patient while trying to get pregnant is very hard but, you have to force yourself to do relax and just know that it will happen. If you have been trying for a year then you should talk to your doctor maybe there is a problem that has a simple solution. The best of luck to both of you.

Answer 5

Make courage dear, we are also in the same sea. I sometimes say these things... it's really unfair !!
Sometimes even say bad things... my friend used to smoke 10 cigarettes a week, so they say that cigarettes decrease fertility... she managed to get pregnant the same, and I don't smoke, don't drink alcohol, pay attention, sometimes even I tolerate a headache not to take an analgesic.... Life is that. We have to make courage and keep the faith, Good luck dear...

Answer 6

I am also trying to get pregnant. It has been a year and a half since we started trying and nothing. Finally the doctor put me on clomid. Just started taking that tody cause i was not ovulating. Just keep trying and praying if nothing go to the doctor

Answer 7

First sorry about your loss...I know how it... i've been TTC for 16 months now and still nothing and every month I think that I migght be then my period comes... have you thought about going though IVF or even adoption? My husband and I are thinking about it..heres a website if your interested

Answer 8

I feel your pain. My hubby and I have wanted a baby for 4 years. I finally decided that if it were meant to be, it would happen. After 4 years of trying, we have finally conceived.
Please don't give up! I read that trying too hard could cause enough stress to keep you from getting pregnant. Please try using my theory and hopefully soon you will be pregnant too!

My prayers are with you and the memory of your beautiful baby girl.

Answer 9

Go to google and search out a product called pre seed. It is a moisturizer lubricant. It is sperm friendly and works great. We tried it 2 cycles and bang I was pregnant. It's supposed to help the sperm live longer.

Answer 10

I'm sorry, your right about the teenage pregnancy thing, it isn't fair.
Have you talked to your Dr.?
Mine told me to give it time.
After my first one, i was unprotected for almost three years, then i got pregnant.
Strange, but i might have been trying too hard???
I sure hope it works for you,
You sound like you would be a great mom.