I need help on fixing my marriage!!!?

Question

We have had some past issues with other women before. I gave him another chance and now he is talking to an old high school buddy. She is sending him pictures of herself. No nudity pics but just pictures of her and her friends. He says there is nothing going on but I cant believe that since we have been through this situation before. He wants to take up for her and just leave me hanging. Like I asked him last night to stop talking with her and he said you cannot tell me who I can be friends with and who I cant. I did not marry my mother. So I decided to call her and I just asked that she please stop sending my husband pics of her and that he had a wife and kid at home. The he got all mad at me and defended her. He said that he would call her today and tell her to ignore what I said. I dont know what else to do. I have offered up Marriage Conseling, but he does not want to go. He said he had did it before when his sister died and it didnt work so he did not want to go. Someone Help!!!!!

Answer 1

You are in need of help.
He is a cheater.
Talk to an attorney.
Protect you and your son.
Get evidence of these affairs.
Move on.
Your love for him has blinded you.
Why are you begging him to change for you. He is not going to do this.
Your his wife and he defends another woman.
Grow up, move on....If he doesn't care how you feel now, then how do you think he will treat you when you leave???
Move on.
Good Luck!

Answer 2

graceangeleve just sounds a little bitter.

It depends on what "issues with other women" means. Does this mean he actually cheated on you? Or that he was flirting?

Either way, I say you give him an ultimatum: Either you stop or there is a chance I may leave you and take your child.

Sometimes couples just go through rough patches and need to get reality checked. Don't get discouraged and try to work it out, a reason why he may be treating you like this is because he thinks he can. Being submissive with him, and not with the other woman may be feeding the problem. Don't choose a way around the problem, like calling her or trying to block e-mails and such, confront the problem with him and be forceful.

If he really did cheat on you in the past, and you're thinking about divorce in the long run, it will be easier to get custody of your child.

Answer 3

Your husband obviously has no respect for you or your marriage. Considering he has been caught cheating in the past and resolved to stay in the marriage and work on it, he should not be speaking with any females that make you uncomfortable. The fact he is defending a friend over his wife should speak volumes to you. Perhaps she is not just a "friend". It may be time to start talking seperation since he cant seem to stay or be faithful. Take your child and leave this man.

Answer 4

I am not telling you what to do. But if this were my marriage and I asked first and offered counseling and he's still acting like that, I would divorce him. As with the first time he cheated, he is again showing you he doesn't respect you at all or your feelings. Do you really want to be with someone who could care less how you feel? I would never tell anyone to get a divorce if I didn't think that the other spouse could care less about how you feel. And, if she still keeps in contact after you called her and let your feelings be known...she's wants your man.

Answer 5

personally i say leave, as hard as it may be leave and move on, this is only gonna get worse, hes obviously learned nothing, if he truly cared about you he would understand and would stop, so he obviously does not care, im the pot calling the kettle black here, my wife did the same thing, and i gave her another chance and for about the first month she was good then she started talking to the same person she cheated on me with, we are still together, but if i catch wind of her doing otherwise relationship terminated, its not worth the heartache and headaches, i have given my wife way more leeway than i think i should have but thats just me, i probably should have left, but time will tell

but i see it as this you gave him the chance to redeem himself and regain your trust, he should walk the line and do so, if he is saying things like that, then its time to move on......good luck in what you do

Answer 6

I think you don't trust him because he has disappointed you once and it is hard to believe again....pressure him it is not good either...you cant push someone to love you or to be reliable...so I guess the solution is not easy, but maybe face the facts would help..ask him if he still loves you and wants to be with you...if he hesitates or if he doesn't show you that his family ( you and your child ) are this priorities..well I am sorry to say but I don't think you should stay with him.

Answer 7

Honey, take your kid and leave him. He has too many issues to deal with. Think of what's best FOR YOU! I know youre not the selfish type but you have to, for the welfare and health of yourself and your child. This man will never learn unless unless he realises what he loses. He has to lose it all before he realises his stupidiity. Please take care of yourself from now on. Your happiness is worth more than pleasing a man who has a dick for a brain.

Answer 8

Well sounds to me like he don't care about your feelings, just his own. What I would do if it was me would give him the same treatment if that don't work just tell him he married you not her and if he wants to stay married he needs to stop. I also wouldn't allow him to even touch me until it did stop. I am sure you have plenty of floor space.

Answer 9

Dont trust him. Divorce him. once a cheater always a cheater. Its a fact! Cheating is part of a persons personality, its a trait. So unless they get a new brain, they will always have that trait. Good luck.

Answer 10

If this was a friend that he has grown up with and BOTH of you have been friends with I wouldn't see the problem, but the problem is, is that you know that his past is going to catch up with him...this would be a deal breaker for me.