I am curious to know if it acutally worked? I would like to hear from both side it it did work for you and if it didn't and why?
2006-08-15 05:33:38 · 4 answers · asked by nice_nasty96 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I went. I liked it and it help me tons. It helped me improve my communications skils and how to express feelilngs effectively. I use those skills even today.
Unfortunately, I could not get past my ex-h cheating and I filed for divorce. I must say that counselling helped me improve my self esteem and I realized that I was better off without the bozo. I learn about love and commitment and realized that I neved had that and that our relationship was not normal. I saw that he was abusing me and for the fisrt time I could see what he had done to me. I made the decistion to leave him after 3 months of counseling.
I say that counseling works if both people are commited to make thisngs work and if the relationship is worth saving. If there are serious issues in the marriage and no commitment to make things work then you should not waste your time, as counselling is a tool and the hard work comes later when you have to apply this tools in order to make things work. You have to replace the good habits with the good ones and sometimes is just easier to go back to the old vicious routine of arguing etc.
Good luck
2006-08-15 05:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't work for me.
But this was for a few reasons.
I'd first suggest you research the different certifications for counseling and make sure the one you pick is certified appropriately.
Our counselor wasn't and it showed.
Second, both parties have to actively be serious about wanting to work on the relationship. Found out during our visits that my ex was still seeing the guy she was cheating with, even though she said she stopped. So basically it was a waste of time.
2006-08-15 12:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by downhillracer77 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and it seemed to work but really only prolonged the end result of divorce. Both people have to be willing to go through the effort. if one or the other doesn't then you just wasted time going to begin with.
2006-08-15 12:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Titanic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It did not work for me. However, had BOTH of us committed to trying, it may have worked. When my ex and I were at our 5th meeting with the counselor he just said he wasn't going to keep up with this sh** since he already had a girl friend and wasn't getting back with me anyway.
2006-08-15 12:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋