Can you seriously fall in love at the age of 12?
2006-08-15 05:26:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
LOL... Well, you'd certainly get a lot of laughs, if not that, many grins...
Just take this as an example.. If you cannot or do NOT feel like reading this entire answer, than it is not love-- because if it were, you would be completely for reading the ENTIRE answer, to understand it; acknowledge it-- and not skimming over it, to not waste time or because you were/ are lazy.
It maybe possible, but nowadays especially? I highly doubt it. 12 is considerably young. Moreover, it's an age where puberty is just coming in. Girls at that age don't really know much about themselves to be able to comprehend much of anything about guys. They know they're weird, and they know they're interesting. They are more weird than anything though.
This is my personal opinion.
Twelve year olds don't know how to compress information and mold it down into logical thinking. Giving a twelve year old a lesson on love is about as equivalent to teaching an earthworm to roll-over.
Unlike humans, earthworms can't ask questions... and if they do, at least I don't know about it. But the questions from these preteens fairly have anything to do with the point of love in itself. They go off subject. And then, some may even be bored on the subject.
With the help of Hollywood, and the many music/ t.v. entertainers, this further supports my argument. What is deemed, the "average child" in today's society has unvoluntarily brainwashed themselves. Today's movies may have loving relationships and so on, but kids don't understand the true meaning of love. In schools, or, especially through the music industry, these kids have adapted that love means sex.
...Which it doesn't. Sex is a form of love between two individuals that truly love eachother-- in otherwords, that would truly die for one another at any given moment, without thinking.
Love is an extremely powerful word, which is underrated these days-- as sex, is far more overrated than anyother "scene" or "song" related to the entertainment industry. Who do we have to blame for this?
Well, ourselves of course. More like the parents are to blame. Perhaps the lack of discipline? It could be a number of factors.
Love can be twisted up to form the most heavenly emotion as we know of on the planet. Yet, it can be the most disasterous event in an individuals life-- causing internal turmoil, and hellish depression. It can even cause mixed emotions between heaven and hell at the same time. It is very unusual. It is unexplainable.. Like that of war..
War, to me, is unexplainable. I cannot answer questions concerning it-- it was worse than hell.. It was not even chaos, it was more than the most wicked thing I could have laid eyes upon.
....Like love, love can be the most fascinating-- or cause the most greiveince.
Twelve year old children, are just learning to cope with little things. "There are people at school that make fun of my hair," or "there are people at school that don't like me because the color of my skin." "Johnny said this, and Katlynn said that, and I don't know who to believe!!"
I suppose it is possible, but you have to remember, that kids say they love-- but in the end, it's clear that it was only a little crush. They feel so strongly about someone or something, they don't know how else to elaborate their experience-- possibly due to the lack of vocabulary-- therefore, creating a boundary that can't be known, because the simplist way out of explaining the entire ordeal is to refer to love.
Kids know what love is. They know it's so strong, but unfortunately they don't know completely because their brain hasn't matured to that extent.
It is a highly debatable subject. But, for the most part, I would have to say no. I seriouslly don't think a twelve year old is capable of personally enduring all the benefits that love provides.
--Rob
*****Sorry for mispelled words, I'm a bad speller I know-- and Spell Check is currently down at this time*****
2006-08-15 05:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by stealth_n700ms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of lengthy, but it should help.
Love is a commitment necessary to marry someone. Yes you can truly love someone at that age, but nobody is mature enough to know how to handle it properly when they've just barely hit the age of puberty. 99% percent of 12-year-olds don't know how to love anyone purely by then, it takes a great deal of maturity and tweens just don't have it. Plus, the person they "love", if they're the same age, isn't done growing and maturing either, so if a 12-year-old girl "falls in love" with a guy who's 13 or something, he's hasn't finished becoming the person he's going to be. What she thinks she loves about him is bound to change as he develops into a man.
Basically, even if that 1% of tweens that could possibly fall in love did, 99% of the guys that "love" was directed at would be too immature to know how to handle it.
Your chances are less than .0001 of finding returned true love at 12 and even so, you're still too immature to expect that it will work out at that age.
Logically, in answer to your question, 12-year-olds should be worrying about going to the mall and bugging their parents about cell phone minutes, not trying to find true love. That's like searching for a needle in the wrong haystack; there's just no point. Hope I've been helpful.
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2006-08-15 05:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, honey - you can't. It feels like you can; it feels like you DO; but the truth be told, your brain is not - at age 12 - fully developed (and won't be until you are 25). You are simply not physically capable of all the many, many confusing and conflicting emotions and feelings that belong to "seriously in love."
You can be in BIG TIME "like", though!!! Don't try to grow up so soon. It will happen --- no matter WHAT you do --- it will happen. Just be who you are when you are and don't stress over being more than you can be. It will make you a better person when the time comes. More ready for real love. That's a guarantee.
2006-08-15 05:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry at the age of 12 you love the mall and your Disney...you love your dog or cat. To fall in love with a person your own age is just a crush.
2006-08-21 11:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Quit worrying about love at such a young age. Dont worry about boys.. focus on your studies. The boys you know now, you wont even remember their names in your 20's. But hopefully you'll be in college or graduating and making wonderful money. After you have made yourself a wonderful well rounded person, then you should look for love. You are too young now... You are infatuated.
2006-08-15 05:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. you are able to type a sturdy bond, a deep appreciation & even a deep emotional contatc with somebody. yet you are able to no longer fall in love that way. each and every thing you have is imagery, words, photographs, textual content fabric, possibly some video or internet calls. you haven't any longer something tangible, something as persoanl as head to head, hand in hand, etc. they might have undesirable breath, undesirable physique odour, or undesirable mannerisms for you to no longer preserve. i'm no longer announcing they have, yet there is so lots extra to somebody whilst they are stood next to you, spending time with you, doing issues with you than you are able to experience with the aid of your computer. i've got confidence love would properly be stepped forward from a internet friendship, internet relationship seems to artwork for some, yet love purely during the internet - for specific, for specific - with out any doubts? i do no longer think of so!
2016-10-02 02:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably not seriously falling in love but you can fall in love...i'd give it a few years so you don't get hurt and end up falling for the wrong person..broken hearts are terrible
2006-08-20 03:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by Yogaflame 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its possible for a girl to fall in love at 12 becuz girls tend to hit pubirty early but boys will probally wont till aorund 13
2006-08-20 22:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think so. I thought it was the great love of my life at 12, and now I see it was totally silly to think so.
2006-08-15 05:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by Lizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can, it doesn't mean that the other person luvs you back, but true love normally doesn't come before your'e at least 14 or 16...so if you think its true luv then maybe it might be...i would suggest waiting until your at least 14 to even think about true love
2006-08-15 05:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋