2006-08-15 05:02:45 · 36 answers · asked by EVY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you cannot fix your marriage by turning away from it. Work on what you have and see if you can make it better. Plan a special date every other week. See a marriage counselor if you believe it will help. (It will.)
If you decide that you can't fix it, end it respectfully and cleanly. Why humiliate, reject, and destroy someone by cheating on them? Would you want to feel that way?
2006-08-15 05:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Depends on what you mean by "somewhere else." If talking to him or changing how things are at home (in order to make him more likely to have time or feelings to give attention) doesn't work, then you might need to go ahead and seek it elsewhere for a while. Try getting a new hobby that makes you feel good, try joining a women's group. Do you have a degree in anything or a special talent? Then you could tutor people. Do what you can to fill that need for attention from him...but don't flirt or cheat on him. You'll feel better about yourself AND...
Chances are, if you keep yourself busy, he'll start seeking you out for attention. :-) Good luck.
2006-08-15 05:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont look anywhere for anything right now find out why hes not giving u the attention try little things to get him to notice u again like fix ur hair put on some makeup like u use too. u know like before he was ur hubby dress up he will start thinking again and may ask who u dressin up for but just forget about the smart azz remarks. he will come back around as long as he isnt giving someone else the attention my hubby use to not give me attention it comes a time in every marriage i guess but now he talks and gives me all of his attention (when we get a brake from the kids that is lol) gl hun IM if u need a friend to talk to. I've been married for 12 years. and been with him since i was 16.
2006-08-15 05:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by twib_tch69069 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of attention? Also, you cannot expect one person to fulfill all of your needs, so looking elsewhere will not solve the problems in the relationship. It is time for marriage counseling and open and honest communication with out attacking one another...not attention seeking elsewhere. It sounds as if neither of you are interested in each other's needs. Do not expect him to read your mind and also, do not expect him to listen if you are screaming at him throwing out insults. Fights once in a while are normal. Also, tell him that you cannot read his mind either and that he needs to tell you what's up. Maintaing integrity is important, much more so than short-term gratification. The survival of the relationship depends on mutual trust, communication and commitment.
2006-08-15 05:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one needs attention. So I think it is okay to get attention somewhere else but, you don't have to look for sexual attention. You should have friends and talk to people. Enjoy life.
2006-08-15 05:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by seaturtle36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, go down to the local bar, pick up some stranger who pays attention to you in that short skirt. Bring him home and bang him like a screen door in a hurricane in front of your husband. That way, at least you are being up front about cheating.
Have fun!
2006-08-15 05:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by Sausage Fingers™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First talk to your husband tell him how you are feeling key tip don't argue or nag him about not receiving enough attention just sit down quietly and talk. If that doesn't work always rely on teddies, nighties,thongs,sexy clothing or sexual games to get the flame going I worked for my relationship. Good luck but don't cheat it is not worth the trouble.
2006-08-15 07:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by K White 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly dont think it gives you a reason to go out looking for someone else.I feel you need to talk to your partner and if the relationship is worth saving get some help.Its too late when you lose trust in someone.It is never the same.You may forgive but you never forget.
2006-08-15 05:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not really. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel and about how much attention that you need. If he doesn't change, tell him that you're unhappy, and considering divorce. BTW...........there is no harm in flirting to get the attention that you need, but how would your hubby feel to know that his wife is going around acting like a hoochie. Well, maybe that would help him change.
2006-08-15 05:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, start talking to him about this, if it won´t work out give him some respect and break up first before going looking for something else...
2006-08-15 05:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by SWE-girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋