about that black and white thing..?

Question

Well my parents dont live together so i have to get it past both of them and my dad doesnt like it because he thinks babies who are mixed are never accepted. my mom is terrible with comlmunication so i dont know what her problem is i just know she doesnt like it. they arent racist people i can say that because if they were racist they would not be friends with the black people they are friends with. their from a time where it wasnt accepted but they cant accept me for it ...

if you dont know what im talking about because you didnt read what i posted yesterday
heres whats going on:
I have a boyfriend that im taking a break from because we cant stay together with my parents hating him because of his race. he is a nice guy. he loves me and i love him. were not exactly in love. that might not make sense but thats the way it is.

what would you do with parents like this?

Answer 1

A mind is a terrible thing to waste so I say they need to be educated on the ignorance of the past.

Why are your parents not together, was it because of their race. It look like same race couples can't hold on to each other and learn from that.

Why do people ignorantly judge people by the color of their skin. It's like comparing a green crayon to a yellow crayon and apple against a orange, I say such to tell you just how ignorant the mind can be.

And please look at all the people who profess to love the God of all human race but judge the human creatures created by such God.

I would live my life and try at best to instill values in my parents because if their logic continue through this century when death, sickness, crime, hurt, pain can happen to any of us, why would anyone feel they are inferior to someone else. Fat people are no less than skinnier people, ugly not less than beautiful people and so on just to show you how ignorant the mind can be.

I say try to be a better thinker than your parents and sad to say, just be the adult of the situation.

Answer 2

Well, when you're out of their house, you'll have the luxury of being able
to ignore them. I know that my mother (white) dated a black guy back in
the 50s and it caused quite a scandal on Long Island. It isn't easy.
You might rent the movie "Look who's coming to dinner".

You might also point to the miriad of models coming out of South America
these days. The mix of races creates spectacularly beautiful faces.

In any case, your parents are (whether they think so or not) well intentioned
bigots. They probably still believe in "separate but equal".

You don't have to see this guy in front of them - its terrible that you should
have to choose. However, I suggest that (I know I am causing family
strife when I say this) whenever you get a comment from your parents,
you simply refer to it as well intentioned bigotry.

You can even start saying things about it being unAmerican, etc.

Answer 3

You need to do what you feel in your heart. My parents always felt the same way, as well. I'm sure they were happy when every guy I brought home was the same race as us. You may not be "in love" with each other yet, but who's to say that you won't? If you care about him in that way, then you need to follow your heart. People will never become accepting of this situation if everyone is afraid to stand up for it. Best of luck.

Answer 4

your Dad has some valid points. Society can be rough on people. Since you're not in love why do that to yourself? With your own race its more comfortable for everyone and it will help your life. Life is so rough already. I have never dated a black man and one Indian guy was sweet but wouldnt listen to me. Find someone you have the flutters for is what I would do and hopefully then youll be so determined you wont be asking this cuz you WILL KNOW. After age 18 you can marry whoever you want.

Answer 5

My bf's daughter has two children by 2 black men. The question is: which culture do they claim? That is the problem. I also had a very dear friend who was married to a black man. While she loved him she did NOT want children. Eventually they divorced. I understand your parents thinking. I am not a racist but I am not in favor of mixed relations for the very reason that the children always suffer.

Answer 6

You're contradicting yourself. First you said, "they arent racist people i can say that because if they were racist they would not be friends with the black people " then you say "we cant stay together with my parents hating him because of his race"

I'm confused.

I'm married to a white man and i'm black and we have a beautiful 7month old daughter who people of all races and walks of life adore and accept with open arms.

People who are confident in their relationship and strongminded individuals will not let the attitudes/opinions of others affect them. And when people began to see that, they'll learn to accept it.

Answer 7

Well, it is never a good scene when parents enforce their own fears onto their children. They are being selfish in forcing you to make a choice between them and your boyfriend.

i think that beyond talking to them there is little you can do. No one knows your parents better than you. If you think their opinions may change over time, perhaps you can just continue seeing this boy anyway. Remember that your parents are just your guides (unless of course you are under 18) and you do not have to choose to listen to their advice. Don't cut them out of your life, but you can make it clear that it is your decision.

Answer 8

I'm not sure how old you are where you'd have to care what your parents think about who you date. I think mixed babies are the most beautiful ones. You can't help who you love/care about, and it doesn't matter what race either of you are...love sees no color! As your folks shouldn't either. They're being super hypocritcal, contradicting their own beliefs just because their daughter is dating interaciallly. It's very ignorant of them to judge anyone who chooses to date whomever their heart falls for...

Answer 9

i do no longer, yet it's time-honored-- no longer continuously (trolls are available each and every colour)- yet time-honored. White individual makes racist remark Black individual replies to the question with racist remark, or writes racist question of their own White individual says something Black individual says something somebody who isn't American or Black/White says something approximately it Racists, and Whites/Blacks come here and stupidly blame it specially on the different individual. i'm no longer racist. I even have associates of ALL colorations, and all of us get alongside high-quality.

Answer 10

As long as you are an adult, who f u c k ing cares! I understand where your parents are coming from. My mother thinks the same way, but I will live my life for me. She has her opinions, just the same as everyone one else, but what it comes down to is what makes you happy. Don't let anyone stand in your way. If he is who you wan to be with, get a back bone and take charge of your life!