am only 14 and my parents told me that am not allowed to go out with any1 becauze am too young but now am going out with some1 and i really like him so i wanna let my parents knowe but am scared to tel them because they mighte say that i have to break up with him or they might get angry.
2006-08-15 04:43:11 · 14 answers · asked by s_m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd tell them he's a friend and let them get used to him being around (unless you're parents have a problem with you having male friends). Then you can tell them later that you've started going out.
2006-08-15 04:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends what you mean by going out and what your parents mean by it.
If going out means an adult relationship I fully agree with your parents. If it means more a special friendship then that should be ok.
If it is the second, introduce him as a friend and when they get to know him you can introduce the special part.
Fourteen is so grown up in some ways but with all the mental and bodily changes to come it is a confusing time and you are, after all, still a child.
2006-08-18 06:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mustn't lie to your parents, I would suggest that you display your maturity and approach them and talk to them honestly. Introduce this boy to them and allow them to meet him face to face.
I will explain something from a parents point of view and maybe this will help you to understand their position more clearly
Imagine that you are resonsible for somebody else, and things they do, or mistakes that they make could potentially land you in legal trouble. Imagine they break the law- it is you that will have to pay the fine or answer to the judge. Imagine they go out and get pregnant or sick. it is you who is legally responsible for taking care of the baby both financially and practically. Whateverthey choose to do, it is you who takes the responsibility.
This is what being a parent is like.
You do not have the same problem as them, you can choose to do whatever you want to do and it isn't you who has to bear the consequences, because you are legally speaking- a child.
The motivations of your parents are not to ruin your fun or to stop you from growing up. They have a moral and legal responsibility and until you are an adult they have to answer the conseqences of all of your actions. They make rules for your own good.
Understand their position before you talk to them- it's not easy being a teenager and likewise it isn't easy being the parent of one. If you are honest with them, and keep your promises, they will trust you enough to make your own choices in your own way. For this to work you must play by their rules and be able to talk to them and negotiate with them on their terms.
The more adult you are in this scenario and the more you can empathise with their point of view, the more likely you are to get what you want. Show them that you are mature and responsible and that you respect their wishes and the fact that they only want the best for you
good luck
S
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2006-08-15 05:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember being 16 and being scared to tell my parents that i was seeing someone. They eventually found out and all hell broke lose 'cos the guy was a bit older than me. I think the best thing to do is not to tell them, as they've already told you that you aren't allowed to go out with anyone. If they found out, they'd most probably try to split you both up, so keep quiet and be discreet about it!! x
2006-08-15 05:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 11:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they say you're too young, there's not much chance they'll be happy with you spilling the beans after the deed is done! You've obviously started going out with this boy behind their backs so you're going to have to face some pretty stiff music!
2006-08-15 04:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are right, you are just a baby. Don't let whoever he is take advantage of your naivity because that is what is probably happening. I hope you are not sleeping with him because that can have disatrous consequences.
No one can ever love you as much as your parents.
Listen to them, respect their views and you can only thank God for that when you grow older and are ready for real relationships. (MARRIAGE)
2006-08-15 05:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by zaki1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to tell them all about him (assuming he is a decent guy, and not some scumbag loser!) than to try and hide it; they are bound to find out sooner or later.
And like Claire said, invite him round as just a friend to start with.
2006-08-15 04:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by nige_but_dim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you sit them down, tell them that you know that they wanted to wait with regards to a boyfriend and relationships, but you met someone, and you both like eachother.
If you are mature throught, they will probably respect you for it, and think you are mature enough to handle a relationship.
2006-08-15 04:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by natasha * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing is to tell your mam that you have seen aboy who is well fit but tell her not to worry as he only wants you as a friend,then in a few weeks tell your mam that you have started seeing this boy but reassure her that there will be no hanky panky going on,your mam will be fine with you,she should know wot your starting to go through,then wen your mams on your side she can have aquiet word with your dad about it,hope it works out for you hun xx
2006-08-15 04:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by babybaby12002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋