I met a woman I really like a lot a few weeks ago, and she is as interested as I am in pursuing a relationship. The one thing that I have reservations about is her tendency to dominate conversation. I think her profession may play a big part in it. She's a communications director for a major corporation, and much of her work involves writing press releases, giving interviews and making speeches. So, people are always asking her opinion, and she's very intelligent, well read, and articulate. Well, so am I, which is one of the main reasons we were drawn to one another. But I am getting frustrated by the fact that our "dialogues" seem to turn into monologues. Without realizing it, she can be dismissive of the thoughts and input of others. She can come across as someone who thinks there's nothing anyone can tell her that she doesn't already know, and that she knows whatever it is better than they do. I really don't think she means to be this way, but am not sure how to broach the subject.
2006-08-15 04:42:37 · 12 answers · asked by leila 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
A good, nice way to bring it up is to mention the exact problem - but be talking about someone else - maybe someone from your work. You know, "I really like this lady Kate I work with but she is such a converstation hog. blah blah blah..." I have used this manuver a few times - it doens't always work but when it does you feel great!
2006-08-15 04:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is highly possibly here work has a lot to do with how she talks to people. If this is something you don't like about her or having trouble dealing with then it's something you need to get used to. Even if you talk to her about this subject and she attempts to alter her speach sometimes, she will still be this person most the time. People can ussually only change so much or so fast. With her job being the cause of this, it is most likely she will need to speak like this on a daily basis, not allowing for much change.
As for speaking to her about this. There really isn't any way to do it that would make it easier. Some things are difficult to talk about. That is life. If you feel she is worth the effort then put for the effort and hope for the best. Good luck
2006-08-15 05:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get her attention and say, I really like you BUT, do you ever stop working? Tell her you think highly of her but your fear is that she will work 24/7 and miss out on a relationship which has too sides talking and listening.. Make a key work that throws her off in the mits of you going cross eyed. Tell her the word like Pirates, Butterflies, pigs feet. Something that will make her loose track of what she is talking about. Tell her you need to do this so you can bring her back to the relationship. IF she doesn't get this than she should remain single....
2006-08-15 05:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I definitely think you just need to tell her. If she doesn't mean to across that way she'll make the effort to change. Of course, you will have to be compromising and patient. I was a lot like that too when my friend was talking and my best friend would always stop me and say, "I'm not done talking." It worked out well and Im sure this will too.
2006-08-15 05:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by laydlo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that it wouldn't do any good. She might work on listening and giving you a shot at the conversation for a while, but she'd revert to her old self in no time. I don't think you can make it work with this woman. She and you are too much alike, and she's better at it than you.
2006-08-15 09:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to her about it in the least offensive way possible. either that, or try to take control over the conversation a few times, see how she accepts this, or comment in the middle of her "monologues" and drag them into other areas you'd prefer talking about. she may have an aggressive conversation style, but it definitely doesn't mean that you have to be passive. good luck!
2006-08-15 08:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by kittens 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a submissive, then you should date a domineering woman. IF your someone who isnt into being tyed up and punished,find a partner who has the time and the patience for you.
2006-08-19 03:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consult with a Cognitive Psychologist. undergo in strategies, "subjective" isn't comparable to "fake" and attempt to no longer overthink issues. attempt to stay contained in the 2d. I often times have an identical situation on a lots smaller scale.
2016-09-29 07:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she would do better in a relationship with someone who loves to listen you need someone who will talk with you not at you this may not be the one you will know when she comes along.
2006-08-18 21:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by lady heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if you could talk to her about something, (maybe after a bottle of wine? heh) and be like, "i'm very attracted to you but you're very condescending sometimes and it's unattractive to me."
Hope it helps.
2006-08-15 05:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by meshquote 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋