I am at a total loss and have seeked friends advices and none can help me answer for many days and I hope some one here can help me with that.. its giving me too much distress and its taking a toll on my job as well.
We have a 7 year old daughter and she is very very attached to me (father). We have 50/50 custody of child and was seperated for 4years before we finally got a divorce this year. during my seperation i found someone else and got married right after i divorced. just a few days ago, i found out she's getting married and moving to the US with daughter.
I'm very upset over this issue of daughter moving away is becos' the utmost paramount issue to me is Giving The Best to her.
I want her to have the Best education and i think the US has got some pretty good schools but that would mean I will not be able to see her since I live half way round the world in Singapore.
2006-08-15 04:41:09 · 14 answers · asked by LG 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are being real selfish because your ex wife needs a life to .Parents always share there children so you will be just like the rest . All that matters is she knows you are her father and the new man will never have the love she has for you. I f you really care about your daughter , it doesn't matter how far she moves because it is only a flight away. Just continue to support her and be apart of her life and things will certainly be alright.
2006-08-21 11:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by marrissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would make sure that my daughter has a clear understanding of what is going on. She needs to be reassured that you and your ex-wife still love her.
Second, I would talk to the ex-wife about visitation arrangements after the move. Maybe you could agree to do every summer or every other summer. She's young enough that you might be able to arrange for a whole school year with you if the child can handle that.
If you're daughter does move away, You can still be a very important part of her life. You can plan a family trip with your new family to visit her. You can web cam with her everyday. You can e-mail her everyday. You can write her letters. Make sure that her mother has all the tools that she will need to keep contact with you i.e. computer, calling cards etc. 1callcard.com has great rates from the us to other countries. Your daughter could call you everyday. My main point is stay an active part of her life even if you are half-way around the world. Make sure that you maintain a good relationship with your daughters Mom and her new husband. It can work! Good Luck!
2006-08-15 11:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the law in Singapore but in the USA if you have joint custody you CAN NOT move away without the other parents consent. Get to Your lawyer Immediately instead of talking to friends. I would say that your daughter needs her Daddy more than she needs a good private school, especially since you have joint custody if you abandon her now, without a fight, she will grow up to resent you!!! Get ON the PHONE NOW to your LAWYER!!!!! KEEP YOUR LITTLE GIRL WITH YOU!!!
Fight all the way!!!!!
2006-08-15 12:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by majesticwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your divorce decree/custody agreement is there a clause for moving from the area? You said you have 50/50 custody then you both have equal say and you should contact your lawyer to see if she is even allowed to moved out of the country without your consent for your daughter to leave.
2006-08-22 15:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by t_j_a_n_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer ! With you both having joint legal custody,
you can petition the courts not to let her take the child out of the country! Also I do not know the laws for Singapore, But here
in the States, it takes both parents to be present and sign the papers, for a minor under the age of 14, to get a US Pass Port!
If I were you, I would not sign the form! Also you can alert the authorities, if you think your ex- will try and take you child out of country! ! ! !
2006-08-15 11:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Lilac_lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not fight to keep her where you are? If you have 50/50 custody, what you say to the courts has got to mean something. Take her to court.
Can she just take your daughter out of the country without your permission to never see you again?
2006-08-15 11:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only good option you have at this stage is to let her go. The past is past and you both are into new relations though the only legitimate relation is your first marriage. You should have thought about your daughter when you split.... atleast when you were entering another relation. Now, honestly its too late. Hope your daughter doesnt get illtreated by her step dad.
2006-08-15 11:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by jCube 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would determine if you would think it best for her to move with her mother or to stay with you. If it would be best for her to stay with you then I would fight to keep her. If you know she would be taken good care of with her mother then you can see her during summer vacation and any vacation they have through the school year which is a lot.
2006-08-23 09:29:02 · answer #8 · answered by Nell ' amore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cant legally move your daughter out of the country without your permission. You had better get a lawyer and get one fast, otherwise you may as well forget about ever getting to see her again.
2006-08-20 07:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by addybme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the two of you have joint custody there is no reason why you should not be able to go to court. especially because you are dealing with another country...hope everything works out!
2006-08-23 11:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by kutie4life26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋