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My friend is dating this guy who works with her.They both were married but just fall in love.She started the divorce process but he kept delaying it..In Jan the guy broke off saying he is going back to his wife but after four months came back to her and said he found out his wife is also cheating on him and now they are even.They had few good months and again he says that since his family is very religious and he feels God don't want him to divorce(He is already divorced once and his wife also has three teenage kids from her first marriage..).My friend is very miserable as she is in middle of her divorce and the reason she did it is backing off..Since they both work in the same department(he sits in the next cube) its even harder for her to avaoid him.He is still living alone.He is talking to my friend but in a very formal way...
My friend needs some advice..Please help her..

2006-08-15 04:18:01 · 26 answers · asked by jheel04 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

26 answers

The guy is a double minded jerk and a hipcrite
I think she got what she deserved. Sorry.
Now she needs to dump this guy so he doesn't effect her work inviroment, maybe even change departments.
She will be ok as time heals all. It will not be easy but hopefully she has learned a valuble lesson.
She is very lucky to have a friend like you.
Good luck and God Bless you both...

2006-08-15 04:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by jewingengleman 4 · 0 0

First of all maybe your friend should have not gotten involved with a married man. That was going to start problems at the beginnig.If the man wants to stay with his wife let him. God loves marrige. But if his wife cheated then he can divorce because thats fornication. The only problem is that you are getting a divorce and if the reason that you are is not because your man cheated on you then if you marry the other man you will be bring him into adultry because in God eyes you are still your husband's wife because he didn't cheat on you. So to be honest you need to leave the other man alone.

2006-08-15 04:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by SillyGurl 2 · 1 0

For one thing, the reason she started this divorce was all wrong! It sounds like she should have never gotten married if the only reason she divorces is because of another man. Second, she broke the cardinal rule by dating a co-worker. It's because of this situation that one should always avoid this type of relationship. It sounds to me like she will be alone after all is said and done. Maybe she could ask for a transfer to another department so she won't have to see him every day or perhaps find another job if seeing him is a problem.

2006-08-15 04:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0 0

Your friend is now reaping the rewards for her adultery. This man will never leave his wife to get with your friend she has already shown that she is a cheater. he only wants her for sex and is using her. Tell him god didn't want him to cheat either and he did that. If he was already divorced he is feeding her a line of bull. He is showing he doesn't even respect her and why should she she has not acted in a respectful way. (neither did he) Tell her to treat him as a co-worker and nothing more. Tell her the next time to get out of one relationship before getting into another one. And just be there for her I'm sure she feels like crap already don't add more on just be her friend.

2006-08-15 04:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The new guy isn't the reason she started the divorce. If she was happy in the marriage she never would have fallen in love with a married man. Her boyfriend is a complete loser anyway. He was divorced once and cheated on his second wife. If she becomes wife #3 what makes her think he won't cheat on her?

2006-08-15 04:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by Steven S 3 · 0 0

She needs to think if it's worth it and see if she is not happy with her husband to get a divorce. She has to think if that other guy is good for her if not she can still get a divorce but she will not stay with ether one of them. She needs to see if he is saying the true about his religion cause not all follow them. She need time to think to make her live better. She might even have to take a trip or go where she can stay with the family away from the husband and the other guy.

2006-08-15 04:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by Gloria (Madison) 2 · 0 0

Let this be a lesson to all "you should never date someone you work with"

Well she should defiantly leave that looser alone, he is playing her every chance he gets. She should go through with the divorce because she did not love her husband enough to keep her pants up with this other guy. And hopefully she has learned a big lesson in Fidelity in a marriage.

2006-08-15 04:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Joy 5 · 1 0

She needs to go talk to a therapist to get her through this hard time. If I were her, I would change departments, or the job completely. She needs to just stay away from him. He led her on and has hurt her. So, right now, she just needs to take care of herself and her own needs because that's whats most important right now. As a friend, just be there for her and listen, let her know you're there for her when ever you need her. It sounds like you're doing that already! Good luck!

2006-08-15 04:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0 0

She should tell the boyfriend type person to buzz off..she is not an object to be played around with. She has done a lot for him (getting a divorce) and if he can't appreciate that..and uses religion as a scapegoat..then Screw him..he is not worth her time.

He is scum..and she can do better...and I would appologize to her ex-husband for cheating on him with such a moron, that swayed her to believe that something was there..when really it was all sexual tension...

2006-08-15 04:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by Bevin M 3 · 0 0

You friend needs to stop dealing with this man and move on with her life. It might even be beneficial for her to have a fresh start, maybe look for new job, move to a new area, etc. This man obviously isn't going to make a commitment to her and she probably feels really guilty about everything that's happened. Coming to work every day and seeing this man is only going to remind her of that.

2006-08-15 04:27:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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