I got 3 best girl friends, S, M and C. S is whom her husband is very rich. She has 2 cars on her own while I only share 1 car with my husband. C has a very rich dad who helps her a lot in her financial. Her husband is the boss to my husband in the company. She has happily married parents while my dad left my mom for another woman. C is a career woman who earns a lot and travels to many exciting places in business trip. While me a stay at home mom. All of them have better life than I do. I feel so unfortunate esp. having broken family at the first place. I am not jealous honestly, I just feel like an unlucky girl. There’s only one thing I’m proud of is my daughter. Cos she’s really smart. I don’t want to get upset over this but sometimes I just couldn’t help it. What shud I do..? Will I be happier?
All of your sincere advice is truly appreciated!
2006-08-15 04:13:53 · 24 answers · asked by #1 Girl -She's Bittersweet- 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just because they have circumstances you envy, that does not make them better than you. I bet each one of them has something they envy about you. Don't worry about what they have. Just do everything you can to make your life and the life of your family happy. If you like being a stay at home mom, then keep doing that. I'm sure your daughter likes it. If you feel like you want to work, then do that. You will be able to improve your family's financial situation and it will be good for your self-esteem.
I have spent the last year and a half, being a stay at home grandma, and although I am about to return to the working life, I would not trade that for anything in the world. It hurt my husband and I financially while I was at home taking care of my granddaughter, but she is a happy, lovely child and we gave that to her. She is with her dad now and loves to come see us. And she gave us so much pleasure.
2006-08-15 04:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you see on the outside, may not always be the case behind closed doors. Think about these working mothers. They have to get up early every morning and rush their kids off to a day care center so they can work all day. (granted I have to do the same thing, but I'm single and raising 2 children with one on the way, so I have no choice.) But, you get to spend the whole day with your daughter. These moms only WISH they could stay with their kids all day. And maybe you're not rich, but you have enough, don't you? Roof over your head, clothes on your family's back, and food to eat. Most of these families that are so financially blessed, don't have the blessing of a good family. Don't be jealous or envious of them. Because you are very lucky to be able to stay home with your daughter. I'll bet they envy you sometimes. I was not raised in the most perfect household, either, and we never had a lot of money, and yeah, it was very depressing sometimes, but we made it through and I'm fine today because of that. Just take a minute to thank God for your little family and everything that you have because someone else may measure their success by how much money they earn and all the things they possess, but you can measure your success by having a brilliant daughter, wonderful husband, successful marriage, and exactly enough to make you happy.
2006-08-15 11:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like your life is shallow compared to theirs, don't worry. You just have to step up and start making yourself happier.
Did you ever want to do yoga? Take a road trip? Find activities at your local recreation department, and look for fun clubs and stuff. Being a stay at home mom is a huge job, but it does mean that you have a little room to rearrange your schedule. Fill your life with interesting activites that reflect what you love doing... go to an art exhibit every friday, volunteer to help a charity you respect.
Fill your life with activities that you enjoy, and keep busy. Then you won't have time to compare yourself... and when you come home after doing some fun, or even tricky thing, you will realize that not only did you not think about your friends' lives all day, you really wouldn't trade them!
Chances are your friends admire you for your life... they're your friends. Once you get the hang of it, try inviting them to do things with you.
The best thing you can do is start doing activities that make you really, really happy.
2006-08-15 11:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by ChaChaChingThing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are looking at it from your side of the street. Try seeing it from their side of street. S whos husband is very rich, what is her family life like or her home lifelike? Are they in debt up to their ears? Not everything is at it seems. C - again you are only seeing what they want you to see. DO you really think your friends care whether your dad left your mom? Are they that judgmental? C the career woman may envy you because you get to stay at home and raise your daughter. Sometime if you want ask your friends if they could trade places with each other who it would be and why. You might be amazed at the outcome. I used to envy my sister her husband always fixed things around the house he worked hard to educate himself to move up the ladder. They seemed to have everything they ever wanted. Went on vacations everywhere.He coached their children's soccer teams. Seemed to be the all around great life. Come to find out he abused her verbally and physically, they were in debt up to their ears. They argued all the time and never spent any quality time together. So think about it. Really look at what you have. People are probably somewhere admiring you too.
2006-08-15 11:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by curiosity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who thinks if she had more money, she'd be happier. Well, she has more money, and she's not happy. She got married, and she's not happy. She buys a house, and she's still not happy. She's got more stuff and more cars than me, and she's not happy. If you compare yourself to others, and think that happiness is based on what you have, then you will never have joy or contentment in your life. Are you healthy? Can you pay your bills? Is your marriage stable? Do you like being a mother?
Have you ever seen a commercial where there are children with flies buzzing around them? No food in days? Keep it in perspective. Find a way to help others, and that will help you focus on making your and others' lives better. You don't need money to do that, just a heart.
2006-08-15 11:21:58 · answer #5 · answered by Karen? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing almost guaranteed is that someone else is looking at your situation and thinking you have the better life.
You get to stay at home with your wonderful daughter--many working moms would love to be able to do this. You have friends, a husband, you are creating your own loving family, your husband has a job.
What you don't see are things like your friend "C", who gets sick of unpacking her bag in yet another anonymous hotel, only to pack it up in 24 or fewer hours. Maybe she plays up her supposedly glamourous life to make herself feel better about herself. Maybe her father gives her money because he feels guilty about never being there for "C" when she was a child.
I went to school with many rich kids & rarely did money make them happy; in fact, money usually was the root of their own family turmoil, and was a surrogate for the parents' attention.
It sounds like the grass is greener on the other side to you...I think you will help yourself if you realize your side is green, too.
2006-08-15 11:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by wylers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wont be that way for much longer. Its just luck and an unfair system. Models get paid millions for doing what? Having a brain the size of a pea? So the fact that someone has more money is not an indication they are better, just luckier. Before the end of the year things will start to change.
2006-08-15 11:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by ByeBuyamericanPi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to learn how to be happy for the right reasons. or if you can't do that, just sell out and be a material possession worshiping consumer ho like 90% of the rest of america. try to keep in mind though that these people w/ greater finances than you are not better than you, & very likely aren't even happy. survey after survey have shown there is no correlation between wealth & happiness. also, your extremely disresepctful to your husband. he is probably the nicest guy of the lot... & you think poorly of him behind his back. frequently people who gather wealth do so at the expense of spending time w/ their families or doing things that are personally satisfying. not sure if that is the case here... but regardless, money ain't everything. judge your guy on more than that. if he is in fact a loser in other more significant ways however.. ditch him... and if money is so important to you, keep it in mind when choosing your next mate. but i feel sorry for yopu having to look at people in such a shallow way.
2006-08-15 11:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by mcslain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you think that your alone in these situations,no. would it be better if you didnt know what material things they held? there are celebrities that have way more money than your friends.everyone is at a different point in their life, you have your background that you should be proud of: no matter what.when it's time for you to recieve your blessings you will no doubt recieve them.be so grateful for the way you are and the life you have.you just dont know that those friends of yours might have more problems than you think.and their life is not all peaches n cream.you have your beautiful daughter, and she's worth more than any money could ever buy.
2006-08-15 11:22:33 · answer #9 · answered by 0000000000000000000000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be unfortunate, but are you happy at this time? It's not worth having things if you're just going to be the same. Yea, you'll have 2 cars and become rich, but you'll just get used to these accomodations soon, and it'll be just a part of your lifestyle. Does having more things change you?
2006-08-15 11:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by Summi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋