we are now divorced. so why won't he come clean? what's he afraid of?
2006-08-15 04:07:45 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does it really matter at this point?
2006-08-15 04:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the content of your question, I am guessing that you suspect the reason for your divorce was because your husband was seeing another woman. If this is true, I am very sorry because it must be very painful to go through. I am going to answer you like I would give advice to a friend so excuse me for my bluntness. Don't wrack your brain on him right now, you have to concentrate on taking care of yourself now because you are divorced from him now. I would pray for things to get better for yourself, go out more, hang out with your friends and family, find a trusting person to vent and cry to, engage in things that will improve yourself(better job, continuing your education, health and fitness classes, hobby, ect.) and just take it one day at a time. If he does have a girlfriend already or she was the reason, work on forgiving him for what he did to you. Forgiveness is hard but it will free you from the pain he has caused you and allows you to move forward to a better and brighter future with some one else. I know you want to know about his girlfriend because you are seeking closure and some sense to your divorce but in actuality everything between you and this person is already closed and I know that it hurts. Maybe he won"t tell you is because he is afraid that if he admits he has a girlfriend that you will do the math and prove he was cheating on you during your marriage. I will also pray for things to get better for you because God is always with you and I am too. Take care.
2006-08-15 11:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear bethann,
this is coming from someone who did just that, not telling my ex-wife that I have re-married. my reasons is what some of the boys and girls here have answered, avoiding confrontation, afraid to upset the other party, afraid that she might flip and over-react since we have a 7 year old daughter.
Guess what... today i just found out that she Knows about it for Months and sadly, she's "getting married" too in a couple of months time and according to some old friends, she's upset that we're never going to get back together again...now she intends to move Out of the country and taking our daughter :-( thats another story alltogether (which I will be starting a new thread and seek others advice) :-(
2006-08-15 11:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by LG 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really, what does it matter to you ! If the two of you are divorced then I don't see where he should have a problem telling you about it! You are not in his life intimately any more! Are you?
2006-08-19 11:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably will never tell you unless he decides to marry her or live with her. It could be because he is afraid that you will get upset or that the news he is seeing someone else will hurt you. It also may simply be that he figures it is none of your business who he dates and if he is dating.
2006-08-15 11:12:34 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember that my ex wife want Divorce after she came to me wanted me to sign the paper. I was wondering why? I asked her seeing someone she told me no... not see you 1 year and 1/2... so i sign and only way I did is I asked my ex wife see if she wanted to date again? she told me no because I am seeing somone that I met online... guess what.. I told her ohhh so when you planning to tell me this.. All you have to tell me and I just sign. but You didn't tell me until I sign?? wow, now you see why we never last long in this marriage??? smiling. walked away. try that... smiling. it works.
2006-08-15 11:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you need justification for divorcing him? Some things are just better not said and nothing good can come from his confessing.
2006-08-15 11:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still keeping tabs on him even though you're divorced? Interesting. Sounds like someone doesn't want to let go.
2006-08-15 11:12:57 · answer #8 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what state do you live in? He prob does not want you to come after her, and sue her for alienation of affection! You do know that you can do that in a lot of states. I personally think they should hang cheaters high! You know in the old days they used to stone peeps for adultery! And brand them with the scarlet letter!
I think it should still be against the law! It is against the 10
commandments! It is against the law in the eyes of church!
2006-08-15 11:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by Lilac_lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares? If he wants to be dishonest, you don't need him around. It matters not if he has a girl friend, you're divorced. Get on with your life and leave the loser to his many women...he'll get his. Karma baby!
2006-08-15 11:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably thinking that now you are divorced, it isnt any of your business......unless you have children together, then of course it would be your business, as they would probably come into contact with his girlfriend.
If you have children, have you thought about asking them questions about his girlfriend.
2006-08-15 11:20:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋