A friend and member of an organization I belong to passed away yesterday--the problem is the friends wife told me to never call or come over to see her husband (we had words at a gathering about how she hurt my feelings over a subject) or she will call the police in . I honored her wish and stayed away but what to do about the visit to the "wake" as things are still going strong about her attitude towards me and also my family?
2006-08-15 04:00:18 · 5 answers · asked by Patches 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
To ( Shaddy ) -- The organization is a "Vets" group and I and the deceased are members but not the friends wife (she just goes to meetings to cause trouble) .
2006-08-15 04:31:32 · update #1
To Shaddy again -- my friends wife is an all control spouse . You are so silly to have accused me of that I was doing something wrong.
2006-08-15 04:35:48 · update #2
she should be mature and forgiving in a circumstance such as this but in reality it doesnt always work out that way and she is his wife or was and you have to respect that, unfortunately,but if you think about it the wake would pretty much just to support her so just send a card or flowers and visit your friends gravesite later to pay your respects,im sure he knows you still care and grieve for him,and after all its about him not her. Sorry for yor loss sweetie:-( good luck
2006-08-15 04:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by chris w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one! I'm not sure why she feels so threatened by you. If it is the same organization I belong to, you should be able to somehow approach her and ask why she doesn't want you or your family around. Or just give her a quick call and ask if it okay that you attend the "wake" because this person was a member of your organization and I'm sure there will be others from the organization there. But the best advise I could give is Pray about it and you will get your answer. If any serious amends are to be made by you, that can come after the "wake". Well, my adviser would tell me to pray about it and then let it go.
2006-08-15 11:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be mature enough to accept that you knew the deceased as well, and put her feelings on the back burner. If nothing else, have someone ask her to make this one exception.
2006-08-15 11:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your his friend then you should go to the wake cause she needs to grow up shes probably just jealous that you had a better relationship with him than she did so i wouldnt worry about her go to the wake mourn and grieve for your friend thats what he would want you to do no matter how his widow felt
2006-08-15 11:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by jax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL WHAT WERE YOU DOING WITH HER HUSBAND DON'T YOU KNOW THAT WHEN A MANS WIFE IS NOT WITH HIM THAT YOU ARE NOT TO BE ALONE WITH HIM THAT IS HOW TROUBLE STARTS AND WHY WOULD SHE TELL YOU TO LEAVE HER HUSBAND ALONE WHAT WERE YOU TWO DOING
2006-08-15 11:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by shaddy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋